Isn't it just boring, or wait till something happens and you need the company of friends n family.

@freiks, I feel your frustrations.

Try to panel beat her in a respectful way.
But be careful, I said here before that there is an hadith that compares women to a 'crooked rib'.
"Treat women well. The woman was created from a rib. The most bent part of the rib is the top part. If you try to straighten it, you will break it. If you leave it, it remains bent. So treat women well."

In Islam people look at four things in woman (or man), they plan to marry:
(i). Virtue (her religion or religiousness)
(ii). Noble (her family status)
(iii). Wealth (her wealth)
(iv). Beauty (her beauty)

Being outgoing is not one of the qualities of good mother or wife. I think she's a good mother and wife already.

You want her to give you company in your social endevours. I think you've right, but if she is not that kind of person, I think you should understand her nature.
If she is pious woman, who is has obedience to creator, then love her the way she is.

I think you should hang out with responsible friends, who you will hang out with, and they will not lead you to womanizing.

Have fun, and when you come back home, bring her a gift once in a while. Call her wherever you are telling her you think about her and you love her.
Take her out with children once in a while to outings for nyama choma or ice-cream for children.

I think she is that kind of person who will appreciate.

NOTE:
- make sure you fulfill her physical needs at home
- Keep house boys and watchmen out of your boma
- keep away those distant relas.

If you were Muslim, I would recommend you talk to her and let her know you will marry another wife. Then look for an outgoing type, but take care of both of them equally.

@freiks

This is introvert vs extrovert kind of situation

We all have our inbuilt characters!!

AlphaDoti, I have no issues against polygamy, but don't you think that is a very flimsy reason to get a 2nd wife. I mean, you must have known she was not outgoing when you married her, yet you popped the question.

When you say it is flimsy reason, it leads us to the question whether we are making assumptions or not.

Let us not make assumptions. Whether he knew she her well or not is not the issue.
It has happened, they are married now, this is her nature, what are his options?

This is the big question and dilemma for a brother and he is now in a dangerous position. He can easily be misled.
Just to avoid home not hurt her, he can end spending so much time in bad company to have fun and get involved with women (girlfriends or mistresses) not realising that when this comes out eventually (and it does), she will be very hurt.

NOTE: Do not tell me "who told you he will get involved with women?"

I can see this coming because his problem now is not male friends. His problem is his wife, he's yearning for a different kind of fun. So that's how I make the conclusion.

So for me, I know that one solution does not work for everybody.
- He could be high libido guy, so what is your solution for him?
- She could be low libido woman, what is the solution?

Since you have no issues with polygamy, let those who opt to do it be free to do it. Those who do not want, to stick with one woman.
But pretending and then going ahead and have girlfriends and mistresses will hurt your wife more!!!

I'm glad my marriage law allows it for me. But it does not mean I have to go for it.

But it's an option. Not the mpango wa kando way!

Try going out just you, her and the kids in some sight seeing areas like lake Bogoria so out of town. Build the family unit first by making her know by you all being out of the home setup you enjoy the family unit. Do this repeatedly as much as you can afford.

When she becomes comfortable with this holiday like family outings, introduce slowly getting to those bigger family get togethers, weddings, birthdays etc but remember the word slowly lest she pull back on all the positive impact you have made.

If she cann't stay longer in this groupings, granted allow her to leave mid way. Whenever she does this make apoint of telling her how you appreciated her company through what she likes and hopefully you shall have a different person all together and both will enjoy each others activities.