...every child wants to have a father. Using the mother's name may cause low self esteem on the part of the child. I have a single parent friend whose daughter keeps on asking her mother where the father is. And the answer she gives her is that he went to work abroad. I dont know how long this lie will sustain. And remember Obama,he came all the way searching for a father who left hi when he was 2 yrs old. And he did this knowing that his father was a womaniser,reckless,drunkard,sometimes selfish etc. It is good for a child to know and be associated with the father no matter how useless he is.

This one is tricky. They know the dad very well and once a while he pays them a visit. The only problem is that they cannot reconcile



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I believe you meant SURNAME.

In most African traditions,there is no surname!!! People are identified by their father's name...and when that is not known,then they can be identified by their mother's name.....do you remember Kuria wa Gathoni?

Now,this child that you refer to; her father is known,isn't he? Indeed,I suspect that his name appears on her birth certificate!!

In that case,there is no need of trying to drive a wedge between father and daughter...just because mother and father can't stand one another.

So advise your friend to simply give the daughter her rightful surname....the name of the father...

When the girl gets married,she can choose to either drop the father's name,or include it in a new 'double-barrel' surname......or even as a middle name

@pearce

Thanks,i will


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@all,

i support the idea of the kids using their father's name,but what if he never supports them in any way for their upkeep. Does is it not mean he is not a proud father to his children?


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