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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2012 Posts: 3,855 Location: Othumo
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I need to be a Pstor, yani you are consulted on everything even on landing or lack of it heh heh heh  Thieves
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 6/2/2010 Posts: 1,066
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Xtina, marry a REAL man. Such a man will not have ego issues regarding where you live. It is the the ones with little insecurities that have all the ego issues. Sorry if I have stepped on several toes but I tell it like it is!
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Rank: Member Joined: 8/29/2008 Posts: 571
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I agree with 2 Cents.I usually encounter wage earners earning a meager salary from a bank with a big ego.They want to buy big cars and live in kileleshwa~~~~
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 1/25/2012 Posts: 1,624 Location: Langley
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King G wrote:I need to be a Pstor, yani you are consulted on everything even on landing or lack of it heh heh heh You won't be consulted and i know why. If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/7/2007 Posts: 2,182
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2 cents spot on. LOVE WHAT YOU DO, DO WHAT YOU LOVE.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 2/21/2012 Posts: 1,739
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Drunkard Marriage is a worthless institution??? It is difficult and uphill but not worthless. What is easy in life anyway, including drinking?? Xtina, Just do your due diligence when buying. Have a good lawyer guide you through the process and all should be well. No one can advise if you are gettig a good value for money or not, other than yourself - do your market survey well and compare prices as much as possible. Do not let anyone lie to you that a man will be comfortable living in your house. That is for sure. And please do not seek advise from ladies as far as this matter is concerned. I have no problem in you consulting your pastor but remember - HE IS A HUMAN BEING. My best wishes. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God..
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Rank: Member Joined: 3/30/2010 Posts: 176
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@Xtina, on the marriage part, I know 3 single ladies who bought apartments. Two got married shortly after and the respective husbands moved in and took over other financial obligations like buying the family car, investing in a plot to build their house later on, etc. The marriages are good, as far as I can tell, and I'm a really close friend.
The 3rd one is not married but she has thoroughly enjoyed her home and is almost through paying for it. She is now planning on buying another apartment.
Oh yeah, I also know another married mama who got a mortgage, the husband made the deposit and the monthly payments come from her pay. Depends on how well the two of you plan your finances together.
The moving in of the man after marriage depends on his personality and ego.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 2/21/2012 Posts: 1,739
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2 Cents, Ali baba etc.. You are simply not in touch with reality. It is not about men having ego buy the Male God created and his hope for this male...Provider and the head of family.Period. How does a person exepected to be the head Join the lady in the lady's house. Who marries who in this case. Wacheni mchezo. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God..
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Rank: Elder Joined: 9/12/2006 Posts: 1,554
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Am wrote:2 Cents, Ali baba etc.. You are simply not in touch with reality.
It is not about men having ego buy the Male God created and his hope for this male...Provider and the head of family.Period. How does a person exepected to be the head Join the lady in the lady's house. Who marries who in this case.
Wacheni mchezo. True but not for indians sorry hindus
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Rank: Member Joined: 3/6/2008 Posts: 632
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@Xtina good to hear you are trying to do something bout it. Tell you what, i lived with tow other housemates on a 3bed flat and my girlfriend then (now wife) lived in her own apartment - which she was paying for, she would come over as i would visit her. Time came and moved in her apartment and eventually got married and you know what she continued paying for it, so many years later with children to boot, we are still there and happy. I am comfortable in my own skin and i find it ridiculous that paying rent/buying a house will define me as a man/head of the house. I call the shots in my house always have but i do consult my wife am not an idiot and maybe thats probably where we are where we are. My advice get a REAL man who is not bothered by non-issues there far bigger things to think about in this world believe me!! Good luck!
The greatest danger in times of turbulence is not the turbulence; it is to act with yesterday's logic.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 9/12/2006 Posts: 1,554
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@Ric dees, well I pray that God bless you more so your wife..... I know a friend who moved in or rather got married to his wife and move to her house, He calls the shots ooh yes but his relatives are not welcome, his house is one sided....
Having said that i know we have within us good people who will not put material before their families so @Xtina, all the best.
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Rank: Chief Joined: 3/24/2010 Posts: 6,779 Location: Black Africa
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What is the role of the man in the 21st Century? Hiyo mambo ya protection ni upuzi. Hiyo ni kazi ya watchman!!! I think it wil depend on the man you get married to. If he has a house also, then you will have to decide which one is most convenient to BOTH of you as a family. You might then decide to rent the other apartment or sell and use the funds in any way to choose. If he doesn't have a house, then it will not make economic sense to rent/husband to take another mortgage while kuna nyumba ingine. But wanaume wako na pride. So if he insists to rent you will decide what is the best move. Note also that by the time you get married you may not your current house fit for current standards GOD BLESS YOUR LIFE
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 1/25/2012 Posts: 1,624 Location: Langley
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youcan'tstopusnow wrote:What is the role of the man in the 21st Century? Hiyo mambo ya protection ni upuzi. Hiyo ni kazi ya watchman!!!
... Na utumishi kwa wote. If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/15/2011 Posts: 4,518
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@jamani My sis owned her house before she married. Her (now) hubby was a med student then,so he moved in after they married. The med course was very exp. and all his money went into it.So my sis took care of the house bit. When he went for masters they were given a house at Kenyatta and they moved in. After completion and now working a dream job,they bought a bigger house in a great location and they love each other to bits. I think a humble man/woman with the right mentality will have no issues regarding this arrangement. "The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 2/10/2010 Posts: 1,001 Location: River Road
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youcan'tstopusnow wrote:What is the role of the man in the 21st Century? Hiyo mambo ya protection ni upuzi. Hiyo ni kazi ya watchman!!!
I keep wondering the same thing the man in the 21st century is a prestige item...your friends have one so you also want to seen with one.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 9/12/2006 Posts: 1,554
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youcan'tstopusnow wrote:What is the role of the man in the 21st Century? Hiyo mambo ya protection ni upuzi. Hiyo ni kazi ya watchman!!!
be careful watchman atakufanyia kazi kwa nyumba? that protection is meanly provision,....
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Rank: Chief Joined: 3/24/2010 Posts: 6,779 Location: Black Africa
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Jamani wrote:youcan'tstopusnow wrote:What is the role of the man in the 21st Century? Hiyo mambo ya protection ni upuzi. Hiyo ni kazi ya watchman!!!
be careful watchman atakufanyia kazi kwa nyumba? that protection is meanly provision,.... Tema mate! GOD BLESS YOUR LIFE
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Rank: Elder Joined: 9/12/2006 Posts: 1,554
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youcan'tstopusnow wrote:Jamani wrote:youcan'tstopusnow wrote:What is the role of the man in the 21st Century? Hiyo mambo ya protection ni upuzi. Hiyo ni kazi ya watchman!!!
be careful watchman atakufanyia kazi kwa nyumba? that protection is meanly provision,.... Tema mate! Nime tema thuu!!!
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/4/2008 Posts: 1,289 Location: Nairobi
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xtina wrote:Hi all, Thank you all for your responses, I have been out for some time, hence my silence. After much consultations and prayers, I decided to use the registered property services. I have been practically trolling through their websites the past three months looking for something that would have fit my specifications and budget. I have three choices, the first one is listed in Hass Consult:the Casa Mia. The other is Villa Care; I have identified 2 property I might purchase. I have made plans to visit the 3 choices before I decide on which one to buy. On the issue of marriage, I talked to my pastor and his advice was to follow my own heart.His take was that I should make plans which are good to me for now, then worry about living plans when I'm actually married. I would have loved to hear some ladies' experience on this living arrangements issue. Hopefully by November I shall give myself a birthday present of a home  Now that you are at the final stage, just check and see who will finish the paperwork fastest. Do not agree to pay all cash and move in to wait for the paperwork. Talk to your lawyer who hopefully deals with many transactions and they can give you some incites from experience before settling into what to buy
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