Now this is what you need to bear in mind:
- she's still young
- She's not yet wise and mature woman like women of your age
- she's spirited young girl who still had a great deal to learn, from you and others
- she's still very quick to learn, with a clear heart, a quick mind and memory.
- Girls her age are not afraid to talk back in order to find out the truth or make it known,
- She need alot of praises whenever she wins something e.g. argument. You should smile & say, "This is my wife, Mrs. @bellshade original, one and only one!"
- she's still intelligent
- THE BEST OF ALL: SHE'S STILL PLAYFUL. YOU MUST MATCH THIS ONE, EVEN WHEN YOUR BODY SAYS NO.- You must allow her to continue her playful ways and chat once in a while with her young friends. I mean responsible friends.
- Allow them to visit her regularly in her house.
- buy her dolls to play with
- Finally, it is important that you handle the matter of sex relations with skill, care and understanding. Remember she's not experienced much yet so please at first focus in her satisfaction!
I want you to read about the wife of Muhammad (pbuh) called Aisha. In the meantime, let me give you a few playful acts about her:
1). Her marriage to the Prophet (pbuh) did not change 'A'isha's playful ways.Her young friends continued to regularly come to visit her in her own room.
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I would be playing with my dolls," she once said, "with the girls who were my friends"
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and the Prophet (pbuh) would come in and they would slip out of the house"
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and he would go out after them and bring them back, for he was pleased for my sake to have them there."
3). Prophet (pbuh) would relax with his wife, and cheer her up with his humor or by making agreeable jokes.The Prophet(pbuh), in spite of his lofty status, used to play with his wife.
He ran in competition with Aisha.
Sometimes she won, and other times he won.
And once, hearing an Abyssinian entertainment team playing outside the home, the Prophet(pbuh) said to Aisha,
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Would you like to see them?"
When she agreed, he sent for them and they came and performed in front of his door. The Prophet(pbuh) stretched his hand, putting his palm on the open door and letting Aisha's chin rest on his arm so that she could see comfortably.
A while later the Prophet(pbuh) asked Aisha,
"
Enough?"
She said, "
Silence!"
Another while later he asked, "
Enough?"
and the answer was again, "
Silence!"
But when he asked her for the third time, "
Enough?"
she agreed, "
Yes,"
and the team went away on a gesture from the Prophet(pbuh).
He then said,
"
The most perfect belief is that of those who are best-mannered and most tender with their wives."
The Prophet(saw) also used to say,
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Surely God does not love a rough person who is boastful, and rude to his wife."
The husband's duties, the wife's duties