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Loneliness.....
Mtublack
#51 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 4:12:57 PM
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fine we know what she needs the question is what is the man getting out of this deal in comparison with a younger woman with no kids,

Its cost benefit analysis that should enable us to determine what type of men she will attract, its good to know what is your options and make the best out of it
Some you win some you lose
quicksand
#52 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 4:20:51 PM
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Perhaps it is the wrong timing for her. Any man who will check in will look at those kids and think 'Hmmmm,...so this one wants me to chip in with their upbringing, kulipa fees, food etc ..why should I raise another man's kids?', he will play nice till he gets laid and then bail out.
On the other hand, when the children have finished college, and its just the woman, potential nice dudes will let their guard down ...

She also needs to adjust her thinking a bit (in other words really lower the bar), attitudes she had when single and unencumbered will not help much.
Impunity
#53 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 4:22:34 PM
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mkeiyd wrote:
@essyk, Do you sacrifice for your parents sake? Is everything that you do,ONLY about your parents?
Why do you think your kids will sacrifice their lives for you? Why would they be different from the you of today?

There is a place where parents sacrifice their lives for their kids, but the suicide rates are also high,very high.

Being a parent doesn't mean abandoning one's life for kids,its providing for them with love and affection in a give-and-take relationship.
It is this fallacy of living for kids' sake that is bringing a breed of spoiled bruts,full of entitlement and a sense of irresponsibility that stinks all the way to hell and back.
Mommy this, mommy that, mommy! mommy! mommy!
In the spirit of gender equality, sub the mommy with daddy.
NKTESTEST!


My sentiments exactly.

Nditto!
Applause
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chemos
#54 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 4:52:12 PM
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lurker wrote:
Impunity wrote:
lurker wrote:
karqui wrote:
Ms Mkenya wrote:
My 2 cents.

And being boys the bond with mama is good smile


lets understand that being a good mama is one thing, and having personal relaxation to give the kids the best, the self needs a break, is another.



we can give this a shot, im easy...gimme ur email addy and i will get in touch


@lurker, must you create a new account for you to win this "a friend"?
Wacha kuwa desperate
Shame on you Shame on you Shame on you

lurker
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i suppose the decision to take up my offer rest with the OP(original poster) and not you



AIRPORT DIGGER....Shame on you Shame on you umekuwa guest all this long halafu ukiona an aiport in distress u quickly register and try to hit the cookie jar...

Haupati NG'OOOO
Impunity
#55 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 5:05:45 PM
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chemos wrote:
lurker wrote:
Impunity wrote:
lurker wrote:
karqui wrote:
Ms Mkenya wrote:
My 2 cents.

And being boys the bond with mama is good smile


lets understand that being a good mama is one thing, and having personal relaxation to give the kids the best, the self needs a break, is another.



we can give this a shot, im easy...gimme ur email addy and i will get in touch


@lurker, must you create a new account for you to win this "a friend"?
Wacha kuwa desperate
Shame on you Shame on you Shame on you

lurker
Rank: Hello
Joined: 7/5/2012
Posts: 2



i suppose the decision to take up my offer rest with the OP(original poster) and not you



AIRPORT DIGGER....Shame on you Shame on you umekuwa guest all this long halafu ukiona an aiport in distress u quickly register and try to hit the cookie jar...

Haupati NG'OOOO


Ati airport digger.
Laughing out loudly
This guy is not a guest, he is a regular and registered wazuan, this we can take to the bank!
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You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.

rock
#56 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 5:18:56 PM
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mkeiyd wrote:
alma wrote:
Kweli this has become lonely hearts corner?

In my many years of dealing with women, there is one thing I know. Not everything is as it seems.

Has anyone asked why she's lonely?

Labda ni kashetani kadogo.

Tell her she laid the bed she's going to be sleeping in. She's too old for the altar and even Njunge has options with t-shirt wearing 19yr olds.

So tell her to accept it and next time, use condoms. 2 kids out of wedlock with guys who don't stay around is a bad sign from where I come from.


I think i kinda did,@karqui is yet to say how/why her friend is lonely.
Maybe she was the kind of "i don't need a man" back in the days. Maybe she wasn't. What do i know?

Many questions unanswered..if she was peeping earlier why didnt she come out to 'defend' herself and tell us her qualities. A picture is worth a thao words,how does she look like-plain,average,smoking hot? There are some late 30's,early 40's ladies with or without kids who give our 20 & 30 something yrs ladies serious compe.
McReggae
#57 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 5:26:31 PM
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Certain topics really ellicit reactions from wazuans.....i'm working out the reason why!!!
..."Wewe ni mtu mdogo sana....na mwenye amekuandika pia ni mtu mdogo sana!".
essyk
#58 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 5:28:23 PM
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^^ true.They touch on emotions and trust people to react to such.Laughing out loudly
Thread inakuwa na so many pages. smh.

Mtublack wrote:
fine we know what she needs the question is what is the man getting out of this deal in comparison with a younger woman with no kids,

Its cost benefit analysis that should enable us to determine what type of men she will attract, its good to know what is your options and make the best out of it


You see?? this is what gives rise to wamboi mbugua kind of scenarios.
I thought the post clearly said she is financially stable?
Shes got everything going on for her kids and she only needs a good time?
Take them to boarding.They aren't kids anywmore.
But no,I guess her problem isn't time so no need to.

Me thinks she holds the key to unlocking her misery.
Many women set very high standards for themselves because they have achieved and sacrificed too much.
I don't know if it's justifiable or not because again I wouldn't encourage one to go search for a loser.
She just needs to be more accomodating and seek in the right places.Broaden her search even beyond borders.
EAC is big.

Searching in clubs to me is a NO NO.

Wapi serikali isaidie?




"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
AlphDoti
#59 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 6:15:05 PM
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Now guys are talking. This is reality talk now.

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Labda ni kashetani kadogo. ...she laid the bed she's going to sleep in..
True there's consequences.

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...2 kids out of wedlock with guys who don't stay around...
Could there be a problem somewhere?Think

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Maybe she was the kind of "i don't need a man" back in the days.
True, there must be a reason why God put compassion in our hearts, to share our lives with someone special. She needs to lower standards.

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By the way si awapeleke boarding??? if she needs time for herself?
This is a good suggestion. You'll miss the boys but again you'll have time to spend with potential partner. Hey, don't forget: I don't mean dish out the goodies yet Shame on you.

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Perhaps it is the wrong timing for her. ...those kids...
A lady can find someone who loves her with whole baggage. I believe she's financially stable and can support the kids. All she wants is companionship.

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...in comparison with a younger woman with no kids.
I want to believe the man will be rewarded with experience and maturity.

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You sacrifice ... your life for your kids only for them to live the life the way they want it and disappoint you!

It can happen!

Closing remark: Opinion polls shows Kenyan men hate mini-skirts and tight shirts (from 411)
Rollout
#60 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 8:49:36 PM
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I think nobody is honest with this lady and I am going to be very honest the best she can find at the moment is a man over 35yrs old who is either broke broke or with a bunch of kids and fairly broke so make peace with that first.

Secondly and here is how I drew my conclusions, take me for example, I am a single(not married) guy, I have a 6 yr old kid, I am fairly paid and will be 30yrs old by the end of the year why in the world would I date a 36 yrs old woman with kids when I can find a 22 yrs old? Ever seen a woman flash a 35 yrs old tit? it is old and ugly sorry to say but, I will advise you to find a broke man who want part of you money, atleast you'll get regular sex and someone you can push around because to be honest every single woman in their mid 30s have problems no man can deal with.

For all you women in your mid 20s and no boyfriend you should start worrying right now because by 27yrs few men will be knocking!

Lastly... can I get your friends email or phone?
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