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Loneliness.....
Ms Mkenya
#41 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 3:05:30 PM
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Wendz wrote:

A man will only walk away if the only thing between the man and the woman is sex. However, in my many years of living, i have come to believe that you can have a male friends who is not necessarily after goods ONLY..... (granted, every man who thinks highly of some woman will want to cross over). But, with such friends, even if there is no intimacy between the two, the friendship is not ruined and can end up sharing much more and doing alot of stuff together that can grow both of them. You realise that, much as sex is an important part of a companionship, it alone can not sustain a relationship. Let your friend start with building meaningful friendships with her male friends. Usually, someone who they have common ideologies, common goals and who look into life in the same direction. She'll be surprised at how fulfilling spending an evening with a genuine friend would be. She'll be better off with a good friend than a lousy lover -

That's my thinking because i am not a guru in these matters....


I totally agree, we are on the same wavelength.
....above all, to stand.
bkismat
#42 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 3:10:38 PM
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lurker wrote:
karqui wrote:
Ms Mkenya wrote:
My 2 cents.

And being boys the bond with mama is good smile


lets understand that being a good mama is one thing, and having personal relaxation to give the kids the best, the self needs a break, is another.



we can give this a shot, im easy...gimme ur email addy and i will get in touch

Shame on you Shame on you
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Impunity
#43 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 3:10:49 PM
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lurker wrote:
karqui wrote:
Ms Mkenya wrote:
My 2 cents.

And being boys the bond with mama is good smile


lets understand that being a good mama is one thing, and having personal relaxation to give the kids the best, the self needs a break, is another.



we can give this a shot, im easy...gimme ur email addy and i will get in touch


@lurker, must you create a new account for you to win this "a friend"?
Wacha kuwa desperate
Shame on you Shame on you Shame on you

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essyk
#44 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 3:22:42 PM
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There seems to many jokers and she is getting disappointed, she says all they want is goodies then they MIA.
Hii maisha ningumu to make a balance. she is getting worried by the day as kids will soon be grown and leave the hub making it more lonelier.


Some ladies are quite funny.
How many men are thinking the same way,
Their cry however is about golddigging women who go mia after they are done digging.

There is an equal no of single men with kids who need comfort and company as well
I doubt they spend all their time in clubs cz just like her, their routine is strict and tiring and they are more likely to be found working from home.And yes they do domestic work cz they love their kids.

Let her cast her net further and stop zero grazing.She will be shocked by the demand.

And karqui you took a wrong approach,you cant force things on people if it goes against their nature.
There is a time for everything and I think she is doing a nice thing looking after those kids.I am sure those boys appreciate that because she s playing both roles.That is no joke.
Many kids hardly see their mothers.

Encourage her by telling her that she needs to be grateful for the time spent on her kids.Its is not 'wasted time'.I guess those are the sacrifices that come about with raising up kids.

I wouldn't cry if I knew I was doing a good job as a mother.I can sacrifice my entire life for my kids till they are mature to look after themselves.

"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
alma
#45 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 3:35:48 PM
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Kweli this has become lonely hearts corner?

In my many years of dealing with women, there is one thing I know. Not everything is as it seems.

Has anyone asked why she's lonely?

Labda ni kashetani kadogo.

Tell her she laid the bed she's going to be sleeping in. She's too old for the altar and even Njunge has options with t-shirt wearing 19yr olds.

So tell her to accept it and next time, use condoms. 2 kids out of wedlock with guys who don't stay around is a bad sign from where I come from.
Jose: If I make it through this thug life, I'll see you one day. The Lord is the only way to stop the hurt.
Impunity
#46 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 3:39:53 PM
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essyk wrote:
I can sacrifice my entire life for my kids till they are mature to look after themselves.




The epitome of deceit!


I would never live my life for the sake of my kids (and I would never wish my kids to live a life I wasn't able to live)

We live once and so once the kids have known what to place in their mouths to be alive then they are good to go!

You sacrifice a huge portion of your life (even its entirety) for your kids only for them to live the life the way they want it and disappoint you!
My kids are human beings who can should live their God given life, just like eaglets.

NEVER EVER!
Shame on you Shame on you Shame on you
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mkeiyd
#47 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 3:47:25 PM
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alma wrote:
Kweli this has become lonely hearts corner?

In my many years of dealing with women, there is one thing I know. Not everything is as it seems.

Has anyone asked why she's lonely?

Labda ni kashetani kadogo.

Tell her she laid the bed she's going to be sleeping in. She's too old for the altar and even Njunge has options with t-shirt wearing 19yr olds.

So tell her to accept it and next time, use condoms. 2 kids out of wedlock with guys who don't stay around is a bad sign from where I come from.


I think i kinda did,@karqui is yet to say how/why her friend is lonely.
Maybe she was the kind of "i don't need a man" back in the days. Maybe she wasn't. What do i know?
essyk
#48 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 3:50:02 PM
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Impunity wrote:
essyk wrote:
I can sacrifice my entire life for my kids till they are mature to look after themselves.




The epitome of deceit!


I would never live my life for the sake of my kids (and I would never wish my kids to live a life I wasn't able to live)

We live once and so once the kids have known what to place in their mouths to be alive then they are good to go!

You sacrifice a huge portion of your life (even its entirety) for your kids only for them to live the life the way they want it and disappoint you!
My kids are human beings who can should live their God given life, just like eaglets.

NEVER EVER!
Shame on you Shame on you Shame on you


Wee wachana!

Fact is when you decide to have kids there are sacrifices to be made.Esp if u had them out of wedlock.
You cant have ur cake and eat it!
9 and 14 yrs mehn! that is when the clay needs moulding.
And yes,they will soon walk out and blame you for not having been a good parent after all u sacrificed Laughing out loudly
But their time will come to be parents.
It's just a cycle of life.

By the way si awapeleke boarding??? if she needs time for herself?
At times you just have to do things by force.
14 is big and so is 9.
At 8 years I could cook for a village and till a 5 acre farm alone.
Thanks God for boarding.

"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
mkeiyd
#49 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 4:05:06 PM
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@essyk, Do you sacrifice for your parents sake? Is everything that you do,ONLY about your parents?
Why do you think your kids will sacrifice their lives for you? Why would they be different from the you of today?

There is a place where parents sacrifice their lives for their kids, but the suicide rates are also high,very high.

Being a parent doesn't mean abandoning one's life for kids,its providing for them with love and affection in a give-and-take relationship.
It is this fallacy of living for kids' sake that is bringing a breed of spoiled bruts,full of entitlement and a sense of irresponsibility that stinks all the way to hell and back.
Mommy this, mommy that, mommy! mommy! mommy!
In the spirit of gender equality, sub the mommy with daddy.
NKTESTEST!
lurker
#50 Posted : Thursday, July 05, 2012 4:07:25 PM
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Impunity wrote:
lurker wrote:
karqui wrote:
Ms Mkenya wrote:
My 2 cents.

And being boys the bond with mama is good smile


lets understand that being a good mama is one thing, and having personal relaxation to give the kids the best, the self needs a break, is another.



we can give this a shot, im easy...gimme ur email addy and i will get in touch


@lurker, must you create a new account for you to win this "a friend"?
Wacha kuwa desperate
Shame on you Shame on you Shame on you

lurker
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i suppose the decision to take up my offer rest with the OP(original poster) and not you
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