QW25091985 wrote:abdulrahman wrote:This thing is normal. I have also the same problem with a certain married lady in our office. Its always tough when I meet her kwa lift or corridor but one day, nitapita na yeye.I know she is also feeling the same.
muslims are banned from this blog !
@abdulrahman your name indicates you are Muslim. I'm and if you are, I should say right now that I'm so embarrassed of you. Yes I'm

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Let me tell you small story from one of the hadiths:
One day a youth went to prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) seeking permission to commit adultery.
He said: "Please permit me to commit adultery."
The Companions of the prophet took this very ill and were enraged at his words;
but prophet said to him: "Come nearer to me. Would you like anyone to commit adultery with your mother?"
He said: "Not at all."
Prophet said: "Then other people will also never tolerate such a shameful act with their mothers."
Then prophet asked him the same question about his sister, aunt, etc.
And he answered each time in the negative.
Then prophet put his hand on his chest and prayed: "O God! Purify his heart, forgive his sins and guard him against adultery."
The reporters say that, after this, nothing was more hateful to the young than adultery.
In Islam, one of the worst sins is Zina. It's one of the worst sin!
God says: "
Do not go near zina. It is indeed a shameful and an evil path." (Surah Al Isra, Chapter 17 verse 32)
Fornication, adultery don't go near! For those people who belief it's no big thing, it's okay, it's not such a bad thing, I want you to know that the idea is not to go near it.
An Hadith says, "
Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third."
So we should always try not to be alone with a woman who is not mahrum to us and not even go close to Zina.
[
A mahram is a male or a woman you can never marry because of close relationship (e.g. a brother, sister, father, mother etc)]
Another hadith speaks to youth saying: "O young men, who amongst you can afford to get married, should marry, for this will be a means of restraining the eyes from casting an evil glance and keeping one pure and chaste."
What happens to someone who does not fear God? The passions of such a person are fulfilled in one of the following ways:
- Having unlawful relationships with men or women.
- Having mistresses.
- Visiting escort agencies and prostitutes.
- Frequenting clubs or discos.
- Reading pornographic material.
- Gazing at women with lust.
What are the Solutions- marry
- If one cannot marry due to some reasons, he/she should resort to the following:
- fasting
- Protect the eyes from looking at strange men/women.
- To avoid mixed gatherings.
- To have the thought that God is at all times watching and aware of your actions.
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To refrain from sitting and working in privacy with strange women.
- Males should
fulfill the rights of their wives i.e. looking after them. This will prevent women from treading the wrong path.
- To be wary of the dictates of the soul or self.
- Women should
fulfill their husband’s rights and should not make excessive demands on them.