Thanks yáll for your input.

@McReggae – umenitafuta hata na torch - are you insinuating that I “wish” her?

From what I gather from people here is that we all have skeletons and I should tell them to go lie to their counsellor that all is well and they can go ahead with their plans coz if she were to unleash ALL her baggage then that wedding should not be allowed to go on

Then again, without giving the lady a chance to defend herself we have unfairly judged and virtually “stoned” her. I also may have been wrong to draw a conclusion from my (and others’) past experience with ladies and this could well be an isolated case. There could be pros only he knows that greatly outweigh the cons which make her his preferred choice so I will let them be.

Not naming names but habitual and/or pathological liars will obviously defend her.

@Ball istic Surely your life and posts are full of lies

This is an interesting read.... But my take is, many of us lie. Sometimes we lie at first because we do not expect to meet that person ever again and you do not think its important to tell the person all about yourself.... and then, with time, you actually realise the guy was serious and you do not know how to reverse the lie.... so you keep adding up on the lie which becomes an elephant. How about advising your friend to talk to the woman. Let him point out that he has picked up that she did not tell him the truth, and that whether she came from a poorer family than she'd have loved, that wouldnt change how he felt about her... hopefully, if this was the only lie, then that should sort it out and they can move on... if there are many many more lies that keep emerging, then, well, sorry, he's in deeper problems than he thought.

On the issue of being "trapped" with pregnancy, it should be clear to everyone who is above 14 years that pregnancy is the responsibility of two adults.... I hate it when i hear a whole grown man talking about being trapped into a woman getting pregnant... helloooo, If you are with a woman you do not intend to keep for the long haul or you don't think she should bear your children, keep your zip up or use a condom! its that simple! duh! For as long as you are not doing either of the two, you are as guilty as she for the conception! you trapped yourself boss....

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Isn't divorce already over 60% I thought every person has an exit strategy a couple of them infact, marriage is not for everyone.... i guess. Look Mandela spent 27 yrs in prison but he couldn't spend 2 yrs with a wife........