You can only allow yourself to be abused.
Nobody squeezes money out of your pocket.
You do it willingly cz;

1.You are afraid of saying NO.
2.Status quo
3.Pressure
4.Desire to please.

After that we cry foul.

Dowry committee? that is hilarious! Am still laughing

it's always a friend <sic>

@Coolbull Does the chick now about this disgusting arrangement. If not she should be told kinjaronjaro.

Reminds me of a friend whom in 2008 we contributed towards his wedding and then they seperated 2 months to the wedo, bado tunagoja refund.

Hehe..kweli

She obviously knows! This thing is wide spread.

Traditionally, it was the responsibility of your father and [Paternal] uncles. Then it was expanded to cover other relatives mostly older than you. Then the extended family - regardless of age - was roped in. The people formed chamas to help each other pay dowry. Now all friends have become washika dau. Next, you'll see a "mchango form" in the office for an employee you can't quite point out - but the name sounds familiar!

What's worse, others changisha more than they are actually taking to the inlaws. There is a friends committee; Workmates committee; Campus buddies committee; High School pals committee; Drinking mates committee; Relatives committee; Neighbours committee etc. And members of one committee are not informed about the committees. Then after all that the bugger takes 200k to the inlaws - ingine wananunua Subaru na Plasma 68 Inch!!!

This reminds me of an sms i received the other day from an old friend who i have not communicated to for atleast three years.infact he started like "i hope this message finds you well.then he goes about the invitation.and he finish by "kindly avail yourself for this worthy cause

... Hapana hii ni Committee of experts.

Committee for dowry payment for real, that is not African. Tell us which community practiced that in the traditional African heritage set-up.

Hata dowry tunaita goat eating? DWL!!!