rock wrote:There's this kenyan lady in her late 30's who comes from a very wealthy family.She is quite attractive,drives a prado vx and lives in her elegantly furnished 3 br apartment in nbi leafy suburbs-white leather 7 seater,persian rug,big flat screen tv + lots of other imported doidos.She says that most men avoid her after they see that house.The parents esp her mum had earlier disapproved of 2 guys who had proposed to her but this time round she put her foot down n is gettin married.For the first visit he was told to bring 500k and later dowry of Ksh 2m.The guy (and his family) is not well off but somehow managed to come up with that cash and they're gettin married soon.The 3 day wedding at a 5 star hotel in msa is being funded by the girls parents.Me thinks she gave him the 2.5m and from the way the wedding is being arranged he will end up losing face in that family,who is marrying who here?
Call me backward but your potential wife needs to 'be afraid of losing something'; This something is excellently packaged as a man who can provide financial security.
Once a man doesn't have this leverage he is minced meat. She will be carrying his balls in her purse. Cause the sheen of new love fades, fights become regular and something that keeps
the marriage going needs to replace it. Its called friendship and companionship, and it can't develop unless there is genuine respect between the two. There will
be no respect from the wife if the dude is a pansy who can't even raise the dowry money.
Anybody who has lived with a woman will tell you of their deeply wounding put-downs about your shortcomings ... it is not wise to tango with women above your station, it is
a recipe for humiliation and stress down the line.