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Rank: Member Joined: 6/30/2008 Posts: 63
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I have noted that there are quite a number of Married Bachelors - men who are working away from Home. I am one Married bachelor,and I am tired of this. Fridays are like a prison break - just too much in a hurry to see wifey and kids. And very early Monday morning,Hit the Road. Its too tiring,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,where are you all married bachelors!!!! been in this trap before? How did u cope? Ladies,any experience?
the world has enough for everyone
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2007 Posts: 8,776 Location: Cameroon
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Been there dan that. I got wrecked,love life completely ruined partly by the distance and a narrow minded totally irrational woman. If that lady in ua lyf is cool with it,u r luckiest. I used 2 get exactly the same feeling. Can silence be misquoted? TULIA.........UFUNZWE!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/28/2006 Posts: 1,799
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u guys r giving me jitters...im just bout to embark on that path and its been nagging my mind for the last 2 months.. My problem is you are going into the unknown.....your better half might be ok with it at first but i believe it has alot of loopholes....... Personallly iv bn contemplating quiting and hustling my own biz jst to be with my young family all the time or get another job but have too many commitments... this is a really good discussion... Guys whove been there done that pls give ur inputs..... Hope they are better than @simonkabz experience..
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Rank: Member Joined: 2/5/2008 Posts: 3
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Am already there and its bad,,,bad,.......terrible!!!!!
No amount of money should make you leave your young family alone. It doesnt matter whether your woman is ok or not. But simply just dont take that path.
Dont say you were never warned!!.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/28/2006 Posts: 1,799
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manguiria..... Please substantiate...
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 10/6/2007 Posts: 1,177 Location: Nairobi - Kenya
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never happened to me... i am lucky... but i dread it.... it is very tempting life and can bring about unpleasant experiences... it calls for commitment and sacrifices... but it is men who does it... it pays for those who are never taken astray... When you run so fast to get somewhere,you miss the fun of getting there... Life is not a race,so take it slowly.... When you hear what I say, you will not understand. When you see what I do, you will not comprehend
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Rank: Member Joined: 7/31/2008 Posts: 116
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I lived away from my family for one year. Used to visit home after every two weeks,almost 10 hours drive. Really suffered as I tried to please my family and employer at the same time. At one time,it affected my work. I made a decision to come back on a pay-cut. But its worth the sacrifice since I had a young family.
@Fuchu,I really understand your case,why cant you relocate your family to your area of work? you need to balance family and career. But I always put my family first before anything else.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/28/2006 Posts: 1,799
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seriously there is no one who has anything positive to say about this... Wendz?
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Rank: Member Joined: 2/3/2009 Posts: 112
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i think the positive side is that
You develop faster than one who stays with the wife. Kisii 's normally leave their wives at home. But then unapata wanawake wao wameleta development sana. Akina ngwono (luos) will stay with their wives in Nai,they totally forget home.All the house wives do is kusengenyana na kupigana kwa plot.
Sleeping like a little baby
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/19/2008 Posts: 4,268
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@chemos
You asked for my opinion. I have experienced it two ways. In my childhood,at some point,my dad worked away from home and came home every two weeks. As a kid,i dint find anything wrong with it because whenever he came,we could play with him,he brought us goodies and all. As for my mom,no idea how she took it or how she managed but yes,she helped him alot with developments and of course she was a no-nonsense type so there was no discussion on discipline!
In my second experience,been there,done that and came out with enough injuries you would think a loaded 10-wheeler ran over me! BUT,i still believe that it is possible for it to work. The fact that i had a nasty experience does not mean you will go through the same too. No. You are unique,you are different,your situation is different. But all in all,you can leave your family if you will manage to visit frequently,make time for your family,you have an understand wife/husband,you can manage to keep the communication from whereever you will be,and you do not intend to be away for EVER! I mean,for a long time. Lets face it,sometimes for some reasons,circumstances force us to be away from our families - that fact alone can not break the family. its how you communicate,trust,respect,and commit to each other. Dont we see so many families falling apart yet they live under the same roof?
But @chemos,trust me,I would do it all over again! Life is a risk,whether you take it or not,it still is a risk.
@Simonkabz
Pole sana boss. Enjoy your every bit of life whether single,married or married bachelor. Live your life at present,forget your past and look forward to an exciting future..... After all,thats all you got,your life.
Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.
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