Wendz wrote:bkismat wrote:What about the Im an independent woman. I don't need a man to help me take care of my kid group?
The woman may not look for the man. Why? because the man was not her father... BUT, the child who is born in the process will most probably feel the need to belong and hence want to know who the father is. This is where the journey begins... My thinking is, even the "i dont need a man to help take care of MY kid" group need to have a child with a man who, if the children want to know who he is, they can find him... sio chips funga daddies....
I think more of the blame goes to the mothers. They don't give or willing to give any info to their kids about the biological dad. If the mothers talked to their kids early enough, about who their dad is/was, the kids won't have to go thru' all that chaff.
When the kids finally find their dads,if possible, just pick things from there. Expecting answers for everything that went wrong btn the parents can render the new relationship unhealthy.