@essyk
Careful not to confuse Eros (romantic love) with Venus (sex).
For the sake of clarity, i would prefer to classify Eros as distinct from sexuality/ sexual activity. Eros longs for the emotional connection with the other person. Venus on the other hand desires the sexual aspect of a relationship.
In a healthy love male-female relationship, the two go hand in hand. Where there is Eros love, Venus love will naturally spring up.
I agree that you can desire (want sexually) someone you do not love. But this is where the problem begins and the confusion sets in.
Later when you want that emotional connection, you'll most likely fail miserably trying to get from Venus (sex) to Eros (emotional connection). As most women and some men (@dunkang perhaps?
) have found out. You'll end up getting jaded about 'love' when what they were really engaging in was unrestrained desire i.e. lust (as acted upon through sex).
But how can i love if i don't desire?I believe the 'desire' you're talking about here is basic attraction i.e. a certain appeal or lure about the person that make you want to get to know them better, on a deeper more than skin-deep level. Hence leading to Eros love which is relational.
Généralement, les gens qui savant peu parlent becoup, et les gens qui savant beaucoup parlent peu.
- Rousseau.