I'm becoming increasingly apprehensive about taking my daughter to a boarding school (even in high schools,) from the stories i hear about teacher student-relationships in both primary and secondary schools. I've talked to a number of both girls (former and current students) and teachers, who tell me that the current situation is, to say the least, really bad.

In one case, teacher at a school was woken up at close to midnight by a student requesting for sex. When the teacher dodged, the gal told her the following day, "wewe ni fala."

Then there was this extreme case where a teacher of around 45 years, was said to have slept with 100+ girls in the school. according to the chic who was telling me this, the teacher would start with a gal, and then sleep with a number of gals in the clique. apparently, the gals were the ones who were tempting the teachers.

I'm not sure about what happens in top schools like alliance gals and pangani, but even a certain school that i had respect for and which had a six-to-six rule for young male teachers, seemed have these scandals. In this school, i was told, that certain watchmen loved nightduty, and they never seemed to complain about being allocated night duty every now and then.

I am of the opinion that all girl schools have female only teachers, cooks, and guards.

Does anyone here have a daughter/nephew in a girls boarding school? What are they telling you?

@Nesta,

I do not know why you addressed this to women first! But anyway The world will always seek to influence your child. Woe unto you if you were busy working, getting an MBA or worse still bringing different men to your house. The first lady was not wrong when she asked some misbehaving someone' who is your mother?'... Mothers (and fathers) take time with your children especially when young... asiyefunzwa na mamake hufunzwa na ulimwengu( au mamawe)

Stop worrying too much cz the things happening everywhere will drive you mad.
Your girl is not safe at home,school,college or work.That's a fact.So what to do? should we lock them in?
They are princesses when young but if you dont shape and mould them from a tender age you lose them in teenage.
I went to boarding in STD 3!! in a remote' mixed private school in western.A mission school.

Later I joined a girl's high school, same region hata ni kama nilitupwa tu. smh! But it was a matter of necessity and I was ok.
Did we have snaky teachers? yes.Pupils? yes.Did I trip? NEVER.Infact I was a school captain from city which was a rare thing!!if u knw some of these schools and their view of city dwellers.

By the way cases of lesbianism zilikuwa sana, I rem 2 girls did a wedding on a sunday afternoon in high school. .Of course they were expelled.Funny thing is they are now doing better in life than those who were bookworms. LOL.
I can give you raw details utoroke.If I tell u the things girls do in school labs??
They almost banned test tubes cz they used to disapper very often.But we had to do experiments and exams so it wasn't possible.
Some girls who wanted to 'fit'tried sulphuric acid to straighten hairs? They ended up in hospital.Gosh just teach ur girl some stuff.

See? that's how bad it gets. You may fear teachers but she can be a victim of lesbianism!!Her fellow students could be worse than the teachers.Ni kubaya.
There are some girls who even stole other women's hubbys lol.Mabibi would occassionally show up in school with mwikos to beat girls who sneaked to the shopping centre and stole hubbys.


If you do not shower you baby girl with love as a Father? you cease to be the role model in her teen years.
A girl's mind always compares love from the people she interacts with.If you love her more she cannot reconcile some things she contemplates on doing. Love is stronger and she feels she owes it to you, to do what you paid for her to do which is not sleep around.So make sure she is your best friend and you can talk anything with her badala ya fear.

Besides your girl needs exposure to the harsh environment so she can learn how to deal with life in her future an dmake sober decisions.Its the reason I dont regret ever going to boarding school at a tender age cz I learnt responsibility before I started my periods.
What determines ha girl's success is the foundation she get from home or mentors.

Look at it this way.We cant do much cz we dont know the motives of these snaky characters.
But you know your daughter so work with what you have (her) and that foundation you lay will see her through.

Note: Most of these girls who sleep with these teachers come from homes where parents care less or are too busy to talk and befriend them.

Eg, cases even on TV.A mother discovers her daughter has been raped after she's pregnant/aborted or 4 days later!!
See she's too busy at work /market to care if her daughter bathes or changes panties so how can she even tell?

True1 @ Nesta, Panomaz...

Dont forget the boy child in all these. Nasty things happen in both day / boarding schools. It is all dependant on how we raise our children. It is an evil world and we parents can 'immunise' our children early.

Quick follow up, I want to make it clear if anyone, any adult be it a teacher or a guy with a shop next to my daughter's school or anyone who is adult, if they ever have a sexual relationship with my daughter who is under 18yrs old, I want to make it clear before the police and my lawyers get involved the adult will have broken legs, broken hands and a couple of teeth out, that is exactly what will happen.

Look again, they don't get attracted to these adults, these adults take advantage of them, these kids come from poor families most of them, a few extra shillings will go a long way to provide some basic needs, this adults use that avenue to sexually molest them, there is nothing like attraction between a kid and an adults. Kenyans Amaze me!

@ essyk, that was brief (ok maybe long) straight and spot on.

Nesta,

Dont worry about your child, God will guide her. I am a mother of three daughters, two college going, one in boarding school. All my girls including me went to boarding school from class five. i can say that boarding schools have all the issues mentioned in these pages but eventually most children outgrow them and they really become outstanding members of the society. boarding schools for girls are full of all these activities but only a few students engage in them. in my boarding school we had a 'lesbian' couple. one day they fought each other tore each others photos etc, fell out of beds coz they shared a bed and all but today these girls are really very good mothers, one has five kids, the other three kids and they are all happily married. my worry is the girls who are being defiled by teachers. in my class five, i remember a girl who got expelled coz she was always 'disturbing' male teachers. i really am sorry about teachers who take advantage of the vulnarable girls and defile them. there is no excuse for this, whether the girl initiated it or not, its criminal to sleep with an underage girl, so find away of carrying this information forward so that proper investigations can be done. am sorry you are stressed, but i assure you your kid will be okay in the end. regards

@MaichBlack,
you also don't get it it is entirely the responsibility of an adult to stay away from sleeping with kids it doesn't matter whether the kid want it, you as an adult should never think of sleeping with a kid, thats the whole point.

When an adult sleep with a kid, it is the adult fault no matter what, you cannot defend that under any situation.

Sex is a beautiful thing. Sex is not sin. Sex is not dirty. Girls mature at different ages, most of them before the age of 18 so there is nothing magical about the number 18. Many successful women had children before they were 18. Ellen Sirleaf Johnson (President of Liberia) was married when she was 17, Mary mother of Jesus was probably between 12 and 14 when she had baby Jesus.

The Parents ranting about the insecurity of their girls is a testament to how lowly they think of their own daughters. They do not approve of the raging hormones within the girls blood. They deny and criminalise the attraction the girl feels towards boys and the desire to have sex. It is this suppression of expression of what they feel within that creates this paranoia.


Sex is a dirty word, a dirty desire that needs to be suppressed. My take on this issue is the opposite, Sex is beautiful, an awakening of the beautiful creative force within us and it should be welcomed and celebrated. Can it have disastrous consequences? Absolutely!! So we educate the girls. Let your daughter know all consequences of unprotected sex and drinking and being in the wrong company and the heartaches of breakups and infatuations. But after you have done this TRUST her to make the right choices for herself and don't for heavens sake make her feel guilty of having sexual desires. If she chooses to sleep with her teachers or the watchman or the boys in the football team, for as long as she makes the choice of her own free will, it is OK. Nothing wrong with that at all. Talk to and educate your girls and then let them be.