Hi wazuans,
This is not my first time on the site after i lost my password and wazua admins could not help. I live abroad and for some time now i have been trying to invest back home. Shares land and all, however i decided to use family as most people do instead of using friends who are "less reliable" . I have been conned too much especially by my bro and imagine am just a younger sister . At first i sent some chumes for an IPO only to get some few shares and since there was a refund i advised him to use the money to buy the shares of the same Co once the trade starts.
He told me he did it and i just got to know that he kulad the money after i went home a year later. I continued to trust him and could send him money from time to time only that he is a big spender and living large. This has been for three years. He worked for one year and then became jobless after being fired. By the time, he had gotten married and has two kids already .
I keep sending him money even now that he is married but i do not think am doing him good as a sister. Infact he represents what one would call those waiting for hand outs . He is so selective on jobs that there are those he does not want to do just coz he is a univ graduate mind you am in US and working at three restos to send him some money and am also a graduate . He is still jobless. I believe am not helping him by sending him money every now and then . His wife does not work either . They are making me poorer and do not know what to do , i do not know if i stop the handouts . please help

If his Kids are in School, help them directly by paying fees directly to the school but for your bro, leave him in the deep end trust you me he will swim out and that way he will learn to live like a man.

@yva....if you want a real solution..listen to @lovely2010...I have a brother who got a dose of @lovely2010's medicine and it worked for me..some family members are opportunists unfortunately and will not spare a generous member of the family when they get an opportunity to fleece and milk them dry...for heavens sake you are working off your ass in the states and someone is living large off that back home that's a great disservice to yourself...sometimes in life you have to play hardball with such members of family if they exist..so if you want a solution you have it right on this page ok..you may end up working so hard and at the end nothing to show for it that's suicidal my friend....kazi kwako..lenga lenga lenga..!!

Lenga him ASAP. He'll somehow learn that kazi ni kazi. He'll hurt for a while but the lesson will be worth it and you'll thank yourself once he starts earning his own cash.

You are your own worst enemy and i wish ai had a sister like you who is all to willling to be milked....Cut your losses and run for the hills.Sever any links you have with him and move on!You owe nobody explanation for not feeding them unless it's your children.....In my world,you do not get it unless you work for it!.

Whoever drives his brother to sin will he judged as to have sinned also . Run ! Your brother will blame you silently in future for spoiling him .asante ya punda ni ......

You ve been given the solution, if you did nt say you are in the states I would have sworn I know you. I know a lady (initials BMM) in the UK who was milked thoroughly by a brother and whenever I pointed it out she felt I was interfering in family manenoz. ..... cut hm loose, it worked for me, I blocked emails and delete texts just as lovely said, mpee tough love

young lady, I was in your shoes. Cut off all contacts asap! they will call you mean and evil and not caring about the family. But you just have to. I'm back in Kenya and I have still cut off my contacts. Guess what, now they say how sharp I am....don't ever take it as your responsibility to feed anyone who's above 18.

This is what killed Careen and many other ladies in the recent past...pure stupidity.
Nincompoop!!!

@yva. today you can do so much in kenya through other means without having to involve family.you can buy shares,treasuries,deposit money into your bank account(from abroad) even do property deals with trusted reputable lawyers n property companies.You have gotten sound advice from all the above responses, now the ball is in your court hope u make the right decision for yourself n future.