It is likely that a number of ladies have set this year as the year to get themselves a man to marry.
1. The older he is than me, the more mature he is
It is true that maturity in most men comes with age but there is a bigger tragedy of getting a man whose maturity is way above you in the search for an older man. There is also the flip side of old but immature men. Maturity is a character trait, one which can come with age but largely with personality. And again marriage is not all about maturity; it is more about love and fun.
If in the pursuit of an older man you get one whose thinking is way above yours you might end up with a father figure. Some might find your demands and behaviour childish. They assume your needs and will most times not consider your opinions sensible.
Don’t just push your age mates away. There are many mature men your age that would do you good. You see things the same way since their outlook of life is similar to yours. Additionally they understand your kind of fun and they are likely to make marriage enjoyable. When you get one you are could be better than the one who got an older man.
When considering a man for marriage look for maturity in personality and not just the age.
2. The richer he is, the happier the marriage
The craze about rich men has led many women condemned to eternal pain. Whereas young ladies will tell you, “I would rather cry on top of a Mercedes Benz than laugh on a bicycle” a good number of older women on top of the Benz will prefer the opposite. Money does not automatically translate into happiness. Actually in most cases his enormous riches have led to her great tribulations. A man should value you for who you are and never see you as a dependant. The money you can get for yourself but the love and companion you need a man to offer.
Get a man because you connect emotionally, someone you love for who he is and not what he has. It is more fulfilling and you will have more say in the wealth you two will make than the one you go to use.
3. The more spiritual he is the happier the marriage
Many women are now said to have flocked churches in search of ‘good men.’ Many men in praise and worship, pastors, evangelists and intercessors are on high demand. Don’t be deceived that spirituality makes him a committed man or a good lover. He is human like many of us with numerous flaws.
There are also pretenders who perform more than serve. Take time to learn men in service away from the pulpit before your hot pursuit. Engage in church social activities together like retreats, community service or youth camps. This way you will get to know them better.
4. The more expensive our wedding the better
The wedding is an event to commemorate a covenant and how big or small it turns out adds no credits to your marriage. For my sisters looking for a man who will give you the wedding of the year, I say look out for the man who will give you a marriage of a lifetime instead!