Burning Spear wrote:
No one is against committees but people taking advantage to gain at the expense of friends.Its is not only immoral but thievery !
Maybe those who have benefited in this illegal stealing may support the extortion !
Who is supporting thievery?
Are you totally against committees for fundraising? If not then tuko pamoja.
I'm not married and not even close to. I do not think I will do a big wedding but that does not mean I will not attend my friends' committees.
Most guys do this: they set a budget which they know they can meet at least 2/3. e.g buy shares. They will then ask the comm to cotribute hoping that the help they get from friends will help them save on their cash and use that cash for another project.
Never seen that as immoral, it's a societal merry-go-round, as I said earlier. Leo kwangu kesho kwako.
It is absurd to set a wedding you clearly can't afford 2/3 of the cost. It is also unfair to set targets for members ati 10k. In fact, I always set ceilings for my friends depending on closeness and do not adjust it regardless of the coaxing that happens in the meetings.
For many men, the wedding day (and other unnecessary stresses like dowry)is a thing we would love to avoid but you do it for your sweetheart and family.