I think @ spend has summarised the whole thing...... and i agree with the role/ right kind of committee- logistics

What ires me is those mates from shags or your hood, whom you're not even close pals but have managed to get your contacts from your folks , are the one who pester you with those sms reminding you that you have NOT pledged and later invite you to a goat-eating party-a week to the wedding to fleece you whatever little was left after you pledged

just two weeks ago, another one invited me to a committee meeting to plan for the bugger's graduation tea-party (UoN)] and when i didn't turn up, he had the audacity to call and ask for my contribution (*,)

The last straw was the honeymoon to Zanzibar where none of the members have ever been.

Ha ha ha, I'd invite myself into that honeymoon.

I thot kina macharia hawana hizo stingo..

what irkes me most is the wedding gowns which cost an arm and a foot and only worn mara moja...

Ive always wondered if its right for committee members to also participate in airport landings etal since they have contributed for the union anyway.. from paying dowry, wedding, honeymoon, maternity bill etc.. NKT...

afadhali come we stay na maisha iendelee..

1. Lady insists on a wedding but does not even have a job.

2. A fellow (colleague)works as a messenger, earns about 10K pm, skips lunch but has a 200k wedding budget, which he expects us to raise... Sending SMSes day and night. WTF... the dude has never seen that kind of money in his account.

I got wedding fatigued after attending committees, being treasurer , chairing etc.

My motto is if you want me at your wedding, invite me. I will come to eat, with an appropriate gift but don't ask me for money. ITS YOUR CEREMONY NOT MINE.

Especially spendthrift!

Some even have the nerve to invite "friends" and committee members for a thanks giving "goat eating" a couple of weeks after the wedding only for them to get there and realize you need to buy an overpriced "flower" which is basically entry fee. You get in and realize the "goat eating party" doesn't even have a goat .

I was so shocked when I was invited for a goat - eating party. I couldn't understand why I was asked to pledge! That is not a party( at least by the way I understand it ). Am very careful these days

Why should sme1 spend 600k on a wedding when they face daily challenges of life. If you wait for fare to go down by 10 bob, struggle to pay rent, not paying for sme insurance (education insurance for your kids is very important ), don't own property ( land or a house etc. ) and you are planning such a wedding..........you are LOST!

Problem is ..... thats what some ladies want. This shows on TV are dangerous. They want their weddings to also appear on TV looking glamourous. No wonder some dudes look distraught. And the problem is, 2 years down the line the marriage will be non-existent.