Rank: New-farer Joined: 9/9/2011 Posts: 32 Location: Nairobi
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jjred wrote:Are you a brother or a sister who has ever been heartbroken? YES, it hurt, it Pains, and it can lead you to a comma or even depression. Worse still, it can kill!!!!!
This kind of situation can last for a long period, for the rest of your life or for a very short moment, remember you are the determining factor but you have got to be very realistic, do not pretend.
Share your heart out with those close to you, those whom you trust search in the internet and you will know that there are so many people who are hurting out there.
What is more important is that you have got to love yourself, move on.
Sometimes the devil brings very bad thoughts in your mind on revenge. Don’t try it, God is best at it, it’s only a matter of time. This happened to me, I had given my Story earlier so I will not repeat. I took control of my life and decided that I will not change my FB, Email Address, Mobile number but then again I will not entertain nonsense in my life anymore. It worked, I loved my X so much but he abused the opportunity, yes ,I didn’t love him for money, ever since we started dating I have never received a shilling from him, in the beginning he had nothing but now he is rich but that can’t make me change my mind. He now offer me opportunity to Partner with him in business, I turned it down.
Yes, he is the father of my daughter but he turned his back on us when we needed him most. I was faithful to him but he wasn’t, he could flirt with any woman around including my close friends, not just one and so I SAID NO, NOT ANYMORE. You know, am one of the ladies whose yes means yes and no means no, but the guy is mistaken. He blackmailed me just to prove himself right that am the one who was on the wrong and he will have to a DNA on the girl in order for him to support her, that even hurt most mostly when you are a 100% faithful to someone, but then again, am not so good at self justification so I accepted to carry the burden. LET THE WHOLE WORLD KNOW HE IS RIGHT & AM WRONG but the whole truth lies with God who is my defender and advocate.
And so I have come to know that there are; 1. sperm donors 2.fake father and 3.real fathers, he is qualified for no.1 but if he really want to be part of his daughters life, I will not refuse so long as not mine but I will not allow a no.2 but I will not force him at any cost.
He wanted abortion from conception, confirmed when I was 7.5mnth (this was 2009) and that’s when he told me if I don’t obey, he will not marry me coz he wanted a holy wedding but when words are going round that his baby is really beautiful and doing great, he now calls ha a blessed baby & needs DNA to take charge, I don’t think it’s worth it what do you think?
NB; Pardon my grammar
Madam jjred, seems you have a problem. You are still in contact with this guy? seems now you having coffee discussing business? I read your story and wazuans advised you to cut contacts completely forever. move on without caring whats happening to his world!
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