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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/14/2009 Posts: 2,057
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Feature in Daily Nation today.. ..should a man go through the emotional trauma of watching their partner push and scream and curse and bleed in the delivery room? can this experience subdue romantic attachment the man has with the woman?.. .. If you are an eagle don't hang around with chickens; chickens don't fly....
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/14/2009 Posts: 2,057
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....is it true that some men who have witnessed birth undergoe something akin to post-natal depression? stomach ache, migraine .. If you are an eagle don't hang around with chickens; chickens don't fly....
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Rank: Elder Joined: 9/7/2010 Posts: 2,148 Location: elderville
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vinii wrote:....is it true that some men who have witnessed birth undergoe something akin to post-natal depression? stomach ache, migraine .. Not true. Been there. Done that. None of those has occurred. He who can express in words the ardour of his love, has but little love to express. - Petrach, Son. (That men by various ways arrive at the same end. - Montaigne, The Essays of.)
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Rank: Member Joined: 1/22/2011 Posts: 193 Location: nairobi
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Elder wrote:vinii wrote:....is it true that some men who have witnessed birth undergoe something akin to post-natal depression? stomach ache, migraine .. Not true. Been there. Done that. None of those has occurred. @ Elder: Did you get slapped or hit? it can be quite intense..
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/27/2008 Posts: 4,114
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I listen to a bit of jazz and I would compare the delivery room experience to John Coltrane's "A LOVE SUPREME", especially the live version recorded at the Festival Mondial du Jazz Antibes in 1965. If you walked into a room and found the music half-way through, you would not understand why over 500,000 copies of the record were bought. It sounds chaotic and without any order - just a bunch of guys playing instruments out of sync with each other. But if you listen to it from the beginning and go through the full 49min, 19sec from "Acknowledgement" to "Psalm", you will hear the musicians start from a common rhythm, then digress/disagree/argue and finally agree on a new tune. It is quite a magical experience - not for the weak hearted, or the impatient. It is the same with the delivery room experience. If you walk-in half-way through, you might faint in sympathy for your partner. However, if you start with her from the first contraction and build-up together through to the final push, you will understand the miracle of child-birth and gain greater respect for your wife. Now let me read the article and hear what the doctor's are saying.... Nothing is real unless it can be named; nothing has value unless it can be sold; money is worthless unless you spend it.
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Rank: Chief Joined: 8/24/2009 Posts: 5,909 Location: Nairobi
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vinii wrote:....is it true that some men who have witnessed birth undergoe something akin to post-natal depression? stomach ache, migraine .. Do those who go into the ward loose morale for landing? Of the 9 months, which ones are safe for landing? and after delivery, is landing still after a few months?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 9/7/2010 Posts: 2,148 Location: elderville
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Querry wrote:Elder wrote:vinii wrote:....is it true that some men who have witnessed birth undergoe something akin to post-natal depression? stomach ache, migraine .. Not true. Been there. Done that. None of those has occurred. @ Elder: Did you get slapped or hit? it can be quite intense.. Neither. It was very humbling and like @mukiha has said above gave me even more respect for my partner (and mum too). Before that was advised that if I attended the delivery it could either make our relationship stronger or destroy it. Don't know about that but it was the former for me. @nostoppingthis landing has not been affected negatively in any way.  He who can express in words the ardour of his love, has but little love to express. - Petrach, Son. (That men by various ways arrive at the same end. - Montaigne, The Essays of.)
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Rank: Member Joined: 3/24/2010 Posts: 677 Location: Nairobi
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Elder, much respect to you
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 12/3/2010 Posts: 1,141 Location: Londokwe
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Pass ,a taboo in Londokwe 2012 is here.Kenya is Ours.Be Part of The Peace Keeping Mission To Protect Our Motherland.Say No To Violence and Tribal Hatred .If you can read this,wewe ni mtu amesoma, usifikirie kama mtu hajaenda shule .Ni Hayo Tu
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/18/2011 Posts: 12,069 Location: Kianjokoma
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Watch a horror movie then walk through a cemetery? Never!!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 2/7/2007 Posts: 11,935 Location: Nairobi
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'user' wrote:Pass ,a taboo in Londokwe  ....BK!..wewe ni long'i ama ni mwanaume? @Elder, Respect.I really wanted one of those but never got the chance.On her first,she sent me away,nikirudi nakutana na mtoto kwa mlango... ...Okay.The other two were delivered vis CS and i was there when she got last born twins....a humbling experience still. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/28/2006 Posts: 1,799
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at aga khan the head nurse does not joke with the ones responsible for the pregnancy... I remember as i was waiting for mama watotos turn to enter there was a guy whose wife was already inside the delivery room and the head nurse came out and asked who the husband was... He was given a mean look and told to get in and wear those green gumboots and gown and told to go support the wife... after 10 minutes the guy came out almost pink and holding a tissue in his mouth to hold the puke back.. I dont know what became of him after that experience.. I think this is not for the faint hearted.. esp for those like Impunity/mlefu who like going for deep sea divi(lick)ing... But all in all it was a wonder.. id add it as the 11th wonder in the world.. even got the pleasure of cutting the umbilical cord and was the first to hold my son... truelly a memorable day...
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 10/25/2007 Posts: 1,574
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nostoppingthis wrote:vinii wrote:....is it true that some men who have witnessed birth undergoe something akin to post-natal depression? stomach ache, migraine .. Do those who go into the ward loose morale for landing? Of the 9 months, which ones are safe for landing? and after delivery, is landing still after a few months? It would be prudent to wait at least 6-8 weeks after delivery before "landing" can take place again. This allows for adequate healing of her bruised (and torn) "airport". Remember too, that the initial 6 weeks contraceptive-effect of lactation would have worn off, so she should be on a contraceptive or a metal jacket should be used. Set out to correct the world's wrongs and you will most certainly wind up adding to them.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 10/25/2007 Posts: 1,574
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chemos wrote:at aga khan the head nurse does not joke with the ones responsible for the pregnancy...
I remember as i was waiting for mama watotos turn to enter there was a guy whose wife was already inside the delivery room and the head nurse came out and asked who the husband was... He was given a mean look and told to get in and wear those green gumboots and gown and told to go support the wife... after 10 minutes the guy came out almost pink and holding a tissue in his mouth to hold the puke back.. I dont know what became of him after that experience..
I think this is not for the faint hearted.. esp for those like Impunity/mlefu who like going for deep sea divi(lick)ing...
But all in all it was a wonder.. id add it as the 11th wonder in the world.. even got the pleasure of cutting the umbilical cord and was the first to hold my son... truelly a memorable day...  Fantastic! Set out to correct the world's wrongs and you will most certainly wind up adding to them.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/18/2011 Posts: 12,069 Location: Kianjokoma
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Rank: Member Joined: 4/18/2008 Posts: 51
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Its a good experience.It makes the bond stronger
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Rank: Chief Joined: 8/24/2009 Posts: 5,909 Location: Nairobi
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jguru wrote:nostoppingthis wrote:vinii wrote:....is it true that some men who have witnessed birth undergoe something akin to post-natal depression? stomach ache, migraine .. Do those who go into the ward loose morale for landing? Of the 9 months, which ones are safe for landing? and after delivery, is landing still after a few months? It would be prudent to wait at least 6-8 weeks after delivery before "landing" can take place again. This allows for adequate healing of her bruised (and torn) "airport". Remember too, that the initial 6 weeks contraceptive-effect of lactation would have worn off, so she should be on a contraceptive or a metal jacket should be used. 6-8 weeks bila landing!!! real men who care about their family...
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/24/2007 Posts: 1,805
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siwesmek!! Ever since a buddy told me his experience,I always find myself in meetings! I Think Therefore I Am
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/9/2009 Posts: 1,491 Location: Nairobi
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Hapo mimi hapana fika Kenya ni yetu sisi sote
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 5/13/2010 Posts: 869 Location: Nairobi
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Guys, the support really matters! But if you're the kind who can't stand seeing blood or someone in pain, please stay out. It's not for the faint-hearted. ....above all, to stand.
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