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brav
#1 Posted : Thursday, October 13, 2011 2:54:28 PM
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My younger sis is about to deliver in about 3 weeks or so, she's unmarried but the boyfie/"the father" been introduced to our home and I had slowly started viewing him as another one of us, but me issue wus I hadnt heard my sis talking of them going to the jamaa's place...? now my fear is now confirmed, the dude got another woman who is actually prego and I guess is about to deliver almost at the same time as my sis, now is this fate o' wat... since my elder siz too got 2 kids at my mum's after failed marriage. now this one too looks like things will be the same. how can I help this young one Im at a loss of advice/help? hebu help out. cheers guys.
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kingfisher
#2 Posted : Thursday, October 13, 2011 2:59:52 PM
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ngoja mtoto aje kwanza, harafu hayo mengine baadaye.

tatua hii kwanza.... who pays for the delivery services???
When I have money, I get rid of it quickly, lest it find a way into my heart.
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Burning Spear
#3 Posted : Thursday, October 13, 2011 3:07:55 PM
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wait for the child to be born then you can advise her. It isn't right to question her at the moment but you can do it afterward. makosa tayari imefanyika.

Does your small sis has a source of income becoz if she doesn't,you need to chip in just in case the man responsible goes underground.
"You're not supposed to be so blind with patriotism that you can't face reality. Wrong is wrong, no matter who says it". Malcolm X
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butterflyke
#4 Posted : Thursday, October 13, 2011 3:09:20 PM
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the child is on the way so as Kingmvuvi says, that should be the topmost concern.

for the rest, write to philip kitoto for practical advice.
Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee. - Muhammad Ali🐝
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bwenyenye
#5 Posted : Thursday, October 13, 2011 3:13:46 PM
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Where I come from, there is a saying that goes like.. The child of an unmarried woman is the elder brother's responsibility as long as the father does not show up!

jipange boss but take it easy on her kiasi!
I Think Therefore I Am
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brav
#6 Posted : Thursday, October 13, 2011 3:15:31 PM
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@King's right i guess, and my problem is how to get him pay for his kid and support the kid, as for know iko bravlets, iko mother whose burdened enough

the sis is husstling na biashara here and there doing cleaning services together with my cousin the jamaa got a taxi. this starting to give me headaches.
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Euge
#7 Posted : Thursday, October 13, 2011 3:21:06 PM
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Don't count on the father of the baby too much. Chances are he will disappoint you. When baby comes, and excitement comes down, ask your sis what she has up her sleeves and then give her support in that line.
Lord, thank you!
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Ray
#8 Posted : Thursday, October 13, 2011 3:22:35 PM
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Please don't stress your sis now with questions - she needs a lot of peace and support.Chances are the guy will favour one woman over the other.If your sis happens to be the unlucky one please pay for the hospital bill. Look for a pocket friendly hospital that offer good delivery services.I'm assuming that she has bought the other stuff for the baby.
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StatMeister
#9 Posted : Thursday, October 13, 2011 3:31:46 PM
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bwenyenye wrote:
Where I come from, there is a saying that goes like.. The child of an unmarried woman is the elder brother's responsibility as long as the father does not show up!

jipange boss but take it easy on her kiasi!


Where do you come from?
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Wendz
#10 Posted : Thursday, October 13, 2011 3:40:29 PM
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What had they agreed when she told him she was pregnant? May be you are jumping gun... find out from the parties. Can the guy maintain a child in the first place? As in, is he financially stable? Did your sister get into it knowingly or did he "lie" to her that there was no one else in his life?

if you have been seeing the guy as "one of you guys", why not sit him down and ask him categorically what's cutting? hear his side of the story. You have not mentioned that the guy has scattered, may be he has no intention to scatter... Be sure there is actually a problem before you start solving it....
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