Sometimes ladies make life too hard. If the roof is almost falling apart, you have told the guy once, reminded him another one time, just let it be. When the roof falls he will do it. Once two incidents embarrass him, he will style up. A real man will not let his ego hurt to much... That is possible on non emergencies.
If it is an emergency, just proceed and do what you can...that is why you are a 'helper'...
....above all, to stand.