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Rank: Member Joined: 1/26/2008 Posts: 71
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Obi 1 Kanobi wrote:Really impressed with the lady, as for the guy, there comes a time when he needs to consider any job to hold on to the lady, for crying out loud, enda mjengo, marigiti etc, after all he only needs to earn Sh 300 a day to double their income. Couldn't have put it better!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 8/11/2010 Posts: 1,588
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The lady counted her chickens too soon. Such are the things one says after 40 years or so. I fear for that marriage now.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/27/2008 Posts: 4,114
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segemia wrote:mukiha wrote:segemia wrote:From experience it is still too early to make a judgement on your marriage before five to seven years have elapsed. That is when the real matrimonial stresses begin. I stand to be corrected. Have some faith. You remind me of the dentist who gave me 3 months for my tooth to start aching again, after which I would go back and plead with him to remove it... that was 22 years ago and the said tooth is still in my mouth! If your marriage (or your friend's or relative's) is messed up by lack of money, don't assume that no couple can overcome that huddle. I hope you will wish to remember one thing, that a woman has no time or place for a man who cannot provide for his family, at least not with the current generation. Believe it or not a large number of failed marriages is centred around finances. It is a fact that cannot be suppressed. Do you have data to support this? Others will tell you that the culprit is infidelity, and yet others will claim it is mother-in-law interference. You need to have factual research data and not simple anecdotal evidence based on casual "arm-chair" observations. Nevertheless, i agree with Obis's comments above. the guy needs to get off his butt! However, this story is incomplete since the wife doesn't say what the guy is doing about his joblessness. Still; the "current generation" needs to hear these kinds of stories so that they stop giving up on the marriages because of lack of material things. Hopefully, their marriages will have a better chance of survival. Nothing is real unless it can be named; nothing has value unless it can be sold; money is worthless unless you spend it.
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Rank: Member Joined: 2/20/2009 Posts: 658
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mukiha wrote:segemia wrote:mukiha wrote:segemia wrote:From experience it is still too early to make a judgement on your marriage before five to seven years have elapsed. That is when the real matrimonial stresses begin. I stand to be corrected. Have some faith. You remind me of the dentist who gave me 3 months for my tooth to start aching again, after which I would go back and plead with him to remove it... that was 22 years ago and the said tooth is still in my mouth! If your marriage (or your friend's or relative's) is messed up by lack of money, don't assume that no couple can overcome that huddle. I hope you will wish to remember one thing, that a woman has no time or place for a man who cannot provide for his family, at least not with the current generation. Believe it or not a large number of failed marriages is centred around finances. It is a fact that cannot be suppressed. Do you have data to support this? Others will tell you that the culprit is infidelity, and yet others will claim it is mother-in-law interference. You need to have factual research data and not simple anecdotal evidence based on casual "arm-chair" observations. Nevertheless, i agree with Obis's comments above. the guy needs to get off his butt! However, this story is incomplete since the wife doesn't say what the guy is doing about his joblessness. Still; the "current generation" needs to hear these kinds of stories so that they stop giving up on the marriages because of lack of material things. Hopefully, their marriages will have a better chance of survival. It looks like @ mukiha that you agree with my casual "arm-chair" observation.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 5/18/2008 Posts: 796
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This is my casual "arm-chair" observation... nearly all the married women I know have been cheated on by their husbands and have never left them... Most of the breakups I have witnessed were a result of financial issues... (even where infidelity was a factor, the woman was usually angry that the dude was spending most of his money on a third party otherwise things would have been fine).
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Rank: Member Joined: 7/25/2007 Posts: 58
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@ Mozenrat is correct. I agree with what you have just said. ALMOST all the women in my workplace have had a sob story on infedelity but after all the tears, threats, anger et al, they still remain put....
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Rank: Member Joined: 8/5/2010 Posts: 335 Location: Nairobi
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That man should get his act together... start selling newspapers or something. "Being loved" is not a blissful place to be for a MAN. What if the wife or child falls sick? Or the rent is doubled? What if the wife kicks him out? Will he go and beg in the streets? That guy should sit down one day and really THINK about his next move, and then the next morning he should get out and do it. That woman is not his mother... that baby is not his room mate! That woman is good. But one day she may kick him out, that the child may not sleep hungry. I wouldn't blame her. "I'd rather be lucky than clever... every time!" - ME
"The problem is not what we don't know... it's what we know for sure that just ain't!" - MARK TWAIN
"Space we can recover... time never!" - NAPOLEON BONAPARTE
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Rank: Elder Joined: 8/4/2008 Posts: 2,849 Location: Rupi
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Is it? Hilarious sentiments these are. Lord, thank you!
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Rank: Member Joined: 4/13/2011 Posts: 151
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Euge wrote:Is it? Hilarious sentiments these are. This one did it for me!!  Common sense is the most evenly distributed quantity in the world. Everyone thinks he has enough.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 12/23/2010 Posts: 1,229
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pn wrote:Obi 1 Kanobi wrote:Really impressed with the lady, as for the guy, there comes a time when he needs to consider any job to hold on to the lady, for crying out loud, enda mjengo, marigiti etc, after all he only needs to earn Sh 300 a day to double their income. Couldn't have put it better! I'm assuming this guy baby sits. Now that domestic help is more expensive – with a house help earning about Kshs. 7,500 minimum,this family CANNOT afford domestic help. She earns Kshs.10,000. If he stops baby sitting and goes for that Kshs.300 a day job,he’ll bring in max 9k per month (assuming he’sworking every day) - and hand over over 80% of it to the domestic help. Under the new minimum wage regulations, he ismore valuable baby sitting right now.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/19/2007 Posts: 2,047
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" that woman is not his mother" i agree!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/18/2011 Posts: 12,069 Location: Kianjokoma
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Rank: Member Joined: 2/20/2009 Posts: 658
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Genghis Khan wrote:That man should get his act together... start selling newspapers or something.
"Being loved" is not a blissful place to be for a MAN.
What if the wife or child falls sick? Or the rent is doubled?
What if the wife kicks him out? Will he go and beg in the streets?
That guy should sit down one day and really THINK about his next move, and then the next morning he should get out and do it.
That woman is not his mother... that baby is not his room mate!
That woman is good. But one day she may kick him out, that the child may not sleep hungry. I wouldn't blame her. Very well put @ genghis. the lady knows that far too well and she holds all the aces. Sooner or later he will become a burden to the lady. She will be forced by circumstances to choose between providing for her child (herself and the child) and the family(herself, the child and the man). You all know which path she would take. She would be acting on a mothers instinct which is purely natural.
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Rank: Member Joined: 1/24/2008 Posts: 479
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and as kaigs put it up there..financial stress will cause the man to under-perform in his manly obligations..and the said love will soon be gone and a replacement will soon be hurriedly sought leading to more problems..jamaa aende mjengo..i hear mjengo acts as an aphrodisiac?? Every man is guilty of all the good he didn't do-
Voltaire
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/1/2009 Posts: 2,436
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@for sport, nice angle - hapo umed*inya point! 
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Rank: Elder Joined: 8/11/2010 Posts: 1,588
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I doubt the man sanctioned that letter to the newspaper that kind of tells the whole world he is jobless.
Ironically, with that letter praising that marriage, I now think it will cause the beginning of the end of that marriage.
It wont be long before it becomes a matter of 'doing things behind my back'.
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