my dear lady...pray that your husband gets a job before the young child is enrolled for a baby class...and the talk will be:

I am aged 30 and have been married for the last five years. We have a five-year-old child.
I am writing to you to whine about matrimony, and to tell you and everyone who cares to read this how shaky my marriage is.
When we got married, my husband worked at Cooperative Bank as a member of the support staff.
Unfortunately, his job did not last long and he was retrenched. For sometime my husband was the the most loving and caring man I had ever known, and if I were given another chance to marry him then or tell him off, I’d still marry him, but nowadays he is not the man i knew.
I will not lie to you...things have not been rosy for us, because of late due to the fact that he has tried getting a job and non is forthcoming, his ego has been completely eroded, he is now withdrawn and his tempers are rising by the day at no reason at all. it seems frustrations are weighing down on him
I earn less than Sh10,000 a month, and from that I have to pay our rent, feed us, clothe the child, pay the school fees, buy school uniform, pay bus fares etc and i am left with so much debts to pay at every begining of the month...
I still love my husband, but his failure to provide for the family has overstretched my meagre income and this is straining our relationship and i feel that our our marriage is headed to nowhere...please advise me..

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The rubber meets the road when child no. 2 and 3 lands.

Let me just say you probably have heard so much bad news until good news is foreign (hence unbelievable).

Kindly identify any 3 women you know who are totally satisfied with their hubbies/ everything?

Have some faith. You remind me of the dentist who gave me 3 months for my tooth to start aching again, after which I would go back and plead with him to remove it... that was 22 years ago and the said tooth is still in my mouth!

If your marriage (or your friend's or relative's) is messed up by lack of money, don't assume that no couple can overcome that huddle.

I hope you will wish to remember one thing, that a woman has no time or place for a man who cannot provide for his family, at least not with the current generation.

Believe it or not a large number of failed marriages is centred around finances. It is a fact that cannot be suppressed.

Really impressed with the lady, as for the guy, there comes a time when he needs to consider any job to hold on to the lady, for crying out loud, enda mjengo, marigiti etc, after all he only needs to earn Sh 300 a day to double their income.