With no siasa,no fuel and unimaginable kitita cha pesa in JKIA,i think this makes a good friday read.

Eve = wowan Adam = man ( u know this by now:)


Many are aware of the (in) famous tall, dark and handsome (TDH) benchmark. Height is a ‘hot topic’ and to many Eves, it falls among the ‘A. N. N.’ – absolute non-negotiable. Many of them will swear that they cannot be caught dead with a short Adam, even if he is one inch shorter!;but the reality is that Adams come in various heights. It is hard to tell why Eves are very passionate about height, but many argue that a tall man looks nicer than a short one. No research out there can tell us if there is any link between how high a man towers over Eve and his ability to respect, love, and trust or exhibit responsible behavior.

The second part of this benchmark is the ‘dark and handsome’ cliché. In reference to this phrase, dark usually refers to the color of hair and eyes ( in whites) .It is all about the outward look. If the statistics doing the rounds out there are anything to go by (Kenyan’s latest Census results not included:)), it does no good to dismiss a guy based on the perception that ‘he is not dark enough’.

‘T.D.H’ is relative and it goes without saying that one cannot be in a relationship with someone they are not physically attracted to; especially in a long term relationship. The problem is that sometimes, Eves are looking for a ‘universally attractive’ guy. Does it need to be said that you do not need the universe to validate his looks, and if that were so, he would be running for Mr. Universe? Consequently, the reality is that a man is as handsome as you want to believe he is (O.K., maybe not:)) but look around and see some beautiful women paired with the not most universally handsome, dark or tall Adams. While some Eves may have made the decision based on Adam’s height when he stands on his wallet, the fact is they are paired, and they are not the ones cuddling Zenika (the cat) :), probably refusing to take cognizance of the fact that the pursuit for the elusive ‘T.D.H’ is bearing no fruit.

Relationships pundits say that when it comes to the fundamental things that matter most in a relationship, looks are not ranked way up the list:) . There is only one Hill Harper in this world (insert the name of your celebrity eye candy here), and no, he does not have a 30 inch chest:). So maybe Eves need to get over it; the choice pool is not exploding with numbers .The recent stampede of about 10,000 mostly single women in Nairobi rushing to have a spiritual revelation on how to find a husband left many with the question; “where have the men gone?” One is left to wonder if this has anything do with the A.N.N or is it really true that most Eves cannot find suitors and it has nothing to do with unrealistic expectations?