And you single mums quit bringing your boys over to my house over weekends so that they can be around a 'father figure' NNNNKKKKTTTT

Imagine a girl who has grown up knowing only her Mum; will such know how to deal with a husband? Will she handle authority? It is a disaster in the making here.

Unfortunately, most women think that once they have a career, everything is set ..... we have a huge problem all over the world at this rate.

no pun intended but sad is the man who get married to a gal from a single parent (mother in this case).
Those gals do not understand the importance of a man since they grew up seeing their mother struggle without men.

Nowadays women (those wishing to stay single but have children) see men like a doctor's portable fridge (only for sperms) the one which the doctor uses to carry life saving blood.

With the dildos finding their way in our country in plenty,us men should be very worried and indeed we will soon be endangered species.

I hope all had time to watch sunday live jana where Elizabeth Wambui was reporting on the increasingly behaviour to homosexuality in our schools eg Ng'aru girls in Kirinyaga

I dont think what they say is from deep within them. Unless one was in a hell of a marriage and it didn't work. Otherwise where possible, give children an opportunity to have a mother and a father.

I may be wrong but this is my thinking.

We have different women. Some see men as just providers financially. Partly, because of the way they grew up. they might have had fathers (because majority of those who want to be single are from two parent families too) but the father's role was only restricted to paying school fees and paying rent... the rest was left for the mother to handle, including discipline. Others are from single parents. So when these ladies grow up, they see the man as they saw their father and reduce their role as providers only. When such women can "provide" say through well paying jobs and say successful businesses, the role of the man in their life then ceases. That's how they imagine, that all a man can do is donate a kid and he doesnt even need to know that he has a little duplicate walking around who he will never get to meet.

I do find it selfish because what the mother then does is just to satisfy her 'needs' while not really looking at what the kid is missing. It is ideal that each child is brought up by two parents but only in the event that it is not possible that a mother can then raise the child on her own. Even when there are differences, i think as grown-ups we should be able to separate our relationships and the relationship between the child and its parents. The fact that it didnt work out with the father or the mother to the kid is not a good reason enough for either the mother to deny the father access to the kid or the father to decide that he doenst have anything to do with the kid. it is possible to have a civil agreement that in the interest of the kid, the parents stay separate, but the children should have access to both parents....

But incase of those who have lost their spouses, it doesnt mean that they cant raise their children in the best way possible and they turn out to be great kids.... Sometimes, let us not jump into conclusions that a single parent just wanted to be. some people are doing a great job while still trying to cope with the loss of their loved ones. And also, there are those whose fathers or mothers have deliberately ran away from their kids lives and dont want to take responsibility. such parents need support. Condemning them doesn't help the society either. And before we condemn, i hope you are really making a difference in that kid who doesn't have a mother or father in your family... may be a nephew or a niece and you provide that support to the mother/father... otherwise, you are just contributing to a problem in the society.... And most importantly, that you are not broadcasting your seeds all over the place and walking like nothing happened... It starts with us, to be responsible parents, then responsible family members and then citizens. Then we can point fingers in all directions.

Denying the other parent access to the kid if he/she is willing to be in their lives is purely selfish. I dont see any other reason.