This is a sensitive area and the lines sometimes become blurred, but there are markers to indicate when a line from “okay” to “not okay” is crossed. Yes, it’s okay to have friends of the opposite sex, in your personal life or at work, but it’s also an area full of landmines. Why is this?
This is because when you start confiding personal details of your life and sharing on an emotional level, you are starting to form an emotional connection and attachment. The sense of intimacy can deepen the more you share, and there can be a feeling that the other person understands you and is easier to talk to than your spouse is. The deepening of emotional intimacy can activate feelings of sexual attraction, whether they are ever acted on or not.
Then add the element of secrecy as you share things you wouldn’t want your spouse to know you shared and you start having secret conversations—in person and by phone—with the other person. This dynamic is similar to what happens in a physical affair when secrecy magnifies the intensity of the relationship. All of this is tricky, shaky ground and it’s easy to take a misstep that was never planned.
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