bwenyenye wrote:@ YW
It is not as hard as you imagine. By the way, what matters is that there is communication. The language barrier is not a big deal. Your kids will hardly ever use your mother tongue in the days to come. In my view, the kids 'tribe' is the neighbourhood they grow in and not the Parents mother tongue. In futre, it will be easier for your kid to marry a girl from Buru where she was brought up than a girl who can dazzle him in your mother tongue. So please check that ... What drew you closer to your wife is not becuase she speaks your tongue, but coz you have similar set of norms. Guys your perception of tribe should change henceforth ... well unless you are raising kids for your village
Shoot! Did I mention inter tribal? I apologise.
I agree with you Mr. Bwenyenye. I am just stirring up debate concerning points of departure in a union, like marriage. Because the union at some point tends to get strained with 'petty' everyday things how much so the 'bigger' unique things? Those who are in such unions know this. It helps to have minimal basic differences.
It doesnt mean I am for tribal seclusion. Please. Ok? I beg you. Please.
I had put a note that unless the partners are ready and capable of overcoming all the challenges unique to their union......its not worth it. Because if their union fails both of them might or will end up worse with stereotypes and perceptions of the other.... and go poison other people....the way information gets distorted as it moves along. I have seen this, and it informs my perception.