@Kingfisher,
Paste??.......Ameiweka na stapler.

The lady should wait until the MIL comes visiting, then take the hubby to bed and have sex making all manner of noises, the MIL will be so embarrassed never to return again. They even can buy the bed made of wires to assist in noise making.

Best of luck Wendz - abundant commonsense in contributions so far.
Our upbringing plays such a large part as to who we are, but at the end of the day marriage is a union between two. She made a mistake in bringing a third party to the union and now he's keen to bring in many others.

Advice from external parties should be sought and adapted completely before being applied to the marriage. At the end of all the advice, who does it profit if there's no marriage?

@Wendz,

Do not forget to bring us the update. I really hope she choses the husband and follows @Ms Mkenya's steps.

And to all the ladies here, please keep off you daughters' marriages when the time comes. YOu now have the benefit of foresight

@Muganda Thanks. Very true... the marriage has to be there otherwise no point of all the talk.

@Ms Kenya
Wanawake 10 wa womens guild kando. yes, we are very close for many many years. she is like a sister to me. Very true. I bet i will have to have that honest talk with her if i have to put some sense in her. luckily, she knows i mean well and when she needs an honest answer, she will ask me because i will say as i see/understand it. But the issues of mother is sensitive even for me to handle coz she is very close to her so this, i had to seek intelligent opinion from here. She is the last born so I think thats where the mother hasnt cut the ties yet and then again, she is the only kid in the country... all the others are out in diaspora and the mom is retired......(not an excuse but you can see where the problem may have started). Thanks gal.

@bwenyenye. will do. She loves her husband and it is really the right thing to do. Her challenge will have to be dealing with her mother which she might have to take the bold step.

@bwenyenye & my 2 cents - honestly, i think its hard but i will so try keep off my son's life like a plague... i hope i will manage. i bet i will adopt a kid to be keeping me busy in retirement... heehheheheheheheheee..