Now, i am in a dilemma.... my best friend of many years is having issues with her husband (who is also a good friend to me too) over her mother's hand in their marriage. The lady's mother seems to have alot of say in the running of this family. Well, the guy doesnt like it but my friend is so convinced that it is for the best of their marriage. i do understand where she is coming from because some of the issues she (the mother) has 'ingiliad' (because it is not intervening so i dont have the correct english word for it and i wouldnt mind someone telling me... intruding sort of?) has been to help them. Problem is, the lady always sides with her mother in everything she proposes and keeps reporting back to her. Me thinks, the guy is feeling like he has lost control of this marriage... but thats my thinking... Now the guy seems like he is kinda sneaking around and the lady is getting frustrated and wants a break...... i know its difficult but it would be sad to see them go that route.

Now, good people, how have you guys been handling this in either your relationships or those close to you who you know had similar problems? i want to be as objective as possible and tell her the real thing as hard as it may be and may be put sense into the whole thing... am supposed to meet my friend today.... How have you been handling this mother in law thing in your families? What are the solutions.... how does this family handle these issues without breaking apart.

And i know how we are in wazua... the next post will say "that friend is you".... its all good with me as long as you let me have your objective solution.

hahahahahahaa.... guka... i swear am so serious.... hii maneno imekuwa mlima seriously...
i would love to tell her that very thing(at the risk of being told i am siding with the husband) but you know has to be abit diplomatic and also need to know how others handled it realistically and what they can possibly try....

MILs destroy marriages...yet the behave very differently in their own.

The MIL should take a back seat...my personal preference is to throw her out of the car!

@njung'e.... yes. there is a problem on that front already....

@kularaha... very true. i bet i will have to figure out how to tell her her mother has to keep off her marriage!

>> What is good for the gander is not necessarily good for the goose...Let the couple choose what is good for themselves.



>> Advise her to change residence first, a distance from her mum....without consultation this time.