@Intelligentsia, touching story and I guess you're right. @Mtu Biz will do.

@Cool jamaa,

Have ever heard of a place called church. Especially catholic church. It is a good place for solace. They will preach hope to you. Hope is an important ingredient in anyones life.

Second question, besides your so called failures, have you ever met real challenges? Is everything provided for you? Were you spoilt in your upbring? Have you ever been left on your own? Try mountain climbing,fishing, camping etc.

Cool Jamaa you've put yourself in a quandry now, with all this advice coming from all corners, you'll just end up confused. Find one person to guide you through such times. A mentor

@Carygoh: Would very much welcome that :) Muganda.....found the quote to be a curious coincidence, @ KL mentor is a good idea and will give the idea some serious thought. Fundamentali, will think through your ideas too....have faced some challenges but most have to do with poor decisions and a bit of a wild/stubborn streak.

Do any of you guys struggle with regret?

@Cool jamaa
Sawa, will drop you an email. On the motivational resources bit, A good friend of mine who is a motivational speaker can lead you through it. Am not sure about her rates to individuals though,but am 100% sure,she wil be of help anywayz. please write to her on irene@royalandrich.com and check out her website for inspirational and personal growth stuff. www.royalandrich.com She also holds motivational talks regulary,for groups,which are cheaper than one on ones(i guess). Follow her on facebook and you'll get regular updates on all she does together with other motivational speakers from all over the world.

On the dad issue... Mavuno Church recently had a very moving and interesting 4week sermon session on the effects of Dads in our lives. Am sure it will be of help to you! You can get Audio Cds on the same from Mavuno and listen. It sure was helpful to many. Helps you understand why we behave the way we do sometimes.. Below is the link. if it doesn't open, please go to www.mavuno.wordpress.com and search for 'Project daddy'

Project daddy