@Wendz
If I don't get back to you today, I will do so next week. Am approaching hostile region and not sure we will still be network covered.
Was wondering if you read the article on Justus Ogendi Kabambe or something like that. Here is a part of the story I was reading and listen to what I have come across so far as arguments of the insane and the sane alike but don't hit back very hard.
The eight-page complaint obtained by the Daily Nation says Mr Kebabe, from Kisii, told authorities he had an argument with his wife on Monday over an alleged extra-marital affair he thought she was involved in.
He then struck Ms Omare with a golf club and strangled her after she started screaming, says the complaint. The couple’s children returned home after school but, unaware that their mother was lying dead in the apartment, went to bed, according to the complaint.
In the morning, the complaint says, Mr Kebabe prepared fruit juice for the children and added Tylenol PM pills (a pain and fever reliever) and gave to the children.
He told investigators that when their eldest child, Kinsley went to take a bath, he followed him and held his head under water, drowning him as the boy screamed “Stop daddy stop!”
He took the body into a bedroom and covered it with blankets before leaving the room and locking the door.
The complaint says Mr Kebabe told authorities he then went into Ivyn’s room, where the girl was lying on her bed as the drugs took effect, and smothered her with a pillow before strangling her to death.
Mr Kebabe also told authorities that he tried committing suicide by taking several Tylenol PM pills and putting a plastic bag over his head.
He abandoned this course of action after realising “he had no plans for the four-year-old girl and didn’t want her to go back to Kenya.”
Mr Kebabe told the investigators that he typed notes on how his daughter should be taken care of but panicked and fled with her. Sheriff’s deputies found the three bodies after Mr Kebabe’s cousin, Mr Joseph Lister Nyaringo called from New Jersey.
http://www.nation.co.ke/...8/-/i2g9bh/-/index.html
Note, Ogendi was very much in his faculties to a point where he knew about the future and desired the best for his elder child by leaving a will.
In short, the man could not continue leaving a lie. Life had ceased to him and he felt obliged to end it with honor. There are men who still believe in putting things in order for honor. In other words, there are things my wife can do to me and I would not be able to live with, I become wild, evil, terror etc to destroy the betrayal, lost image, spoilt lineage you name it.
Wendz, that is why am still hearing men say, "if I was ever to discover that our first born was ours but our second and third born were born by an outsider without my consent while I have raised them for the last ten years, what Justus Ogendi has done would appear to be child's play".
You wanted to understand why
we do it.
1. Honor is more important to some of us than peace. If it takes terror or our lives to regain the honor, let it be.
2. When I get married to you, I expect you to play your part accordingly if am also playing my part. Never believe the adage that all men are the same. Some of us never stray from home.
3. The last time I was in Kenya, this guy had an excuse of touching the barmaid on soft spots a few minutes before we drove home. In the car, he said he wanted the arousal from the bar to continue home so that he could fulfill his obligation at home. Reason, mama has lost appeal and however much he tries, she does not generate arousal on her own. But the guy does not want to cheat. Depends on how you look at it here.
4. A wife is still a stranger in the house cauze you don't share blood. The cost of raising two children is astronomical is everything was to be accounted for including monetary, emotional, physical and spiritual. Count how many medical bills you have paid for the kids, struggled to take them to the best schools, loved them unconditionally including changing their nappies {how many men do you see changing a neighbour's kid's nappy?} etc, then one day, you discover you have wasted all your resources on some bloody vagabond's children because the wife had let her airport go adrift.
5. There is a difference between me agreeing to take you in wife your bustard child but if you add another bustard while we live together, I wont take it kindly.
6. This one, I know I will get some hash response. Many men don't marry because they enjoy living with the woman. It is all about keeping the family tree going on, keep the clan blood flowing cauze the future holds so much we never know when the clan will finally come together with the ancestors and questions will be asked, did you propagate and defend the honor of the family lineage at all cost? Honor killings do not give a hoot about region, governments or ethics especially when the same three facilitate despoliation, sacrilege and desecration of family honor.
7. When a woman has survived ten yrs of deceit, the day she is found out compounds matters 100 times. It is far better to come home and tell hubby, "dear, I was raped. What do we do with the consequences." Ten years of double lies makes a man feel so bad that normal punishment cannot be adequate. Only capital punishment makes sense so that no one would ever ask me whether we divorced or blah blah. It would all be there for the world to read in the papers and internet if not on telly. Why we don't learn from it is still a mystery cauze I've heard pretty of these discipline measures with a finality in recent times.
8. If you kill the mother and leave the bustards alive, they will grow up to be strong and possibly avenge their mother's killing.
9. There is nothing sweet than hitting a man who has been having an affair with your wife where it hurts most while he cannot come forward to claim he sired the kids whose blood was shed courtesy of his conniving skills and lust. That is why the butcher man still risks giving your wife an extra kg of meat even if you might be suspicious, cauze blood is thicker than water and if you kill that child he sired with your wife, he would feel it where it hurts most.
10. Just wanted to give ten reasons before you come up with your ten ways of avoiding the Justus Ogendi, Mukovero, etc phenomena. Sex is very sweet, the more you enjoy it especially from different partners, the more severe the repercussions will be. So, it is natures way of balancing things.
11. A bonus point:
Twelve years of stress from his wife;
was bottled up inside him.
He wasn't holdin' nothin' back;
he let her have it all.
When the hubby left the house,
not a single bustard was standing.
It looked like a scene from Mogadishu;
when American elite amphibian marines,
were last there.
He said, "This one's for bucherman,
as he watched the last bustard fall.
And I heard him say, I promised you dad;
not to betray the family bloodline...
Note, It's not that am enjoying it, am trying to be poetic so that others can read, learn and be better off even if it's only one who will take heed. On the other hand, there is nowhere I said that the man is right and the woman wrong, I only presented it according to various sources cauze I've been doing some findings on the same.
Go overdrive in purchasing the goods when there's blood on the streets, expecially if the blood is your own