Most women get married between 18-35 yrs of age, thus abt a 17-yr window walking the tightrope between her career and family; concentrate too much on career, your family life suffers, start too early on family, your career and overall life quality for your tois suffers.

I bet many of the ones on sato were of the concentrating-on-career-at-all-costs kind and who now realize, with the benefit of hindisght, that a woman - despite all her academic, career and material accomplishments - is nevertheless an intensely emotional creature who needs companionship, to be loved and appreciated & to occasionally hear the patter of little feet in the house.

Unfortunately, for most of them they reach this awareness when their 'nesting/maternal' instinct is aroused and their biological clocks are loud enough to be heard in the next town/county.
Still, what a nice thought they all want to get married, and you say marriage as an institution is dying...ABK! Am really encouraged people still value the family unit, but for a pastor telling you you will get a mariage proposal call at the end of the day is exploiting these young womens' anxieties is terribly cruel.

And where's mahegoat, we also need to get him a wife...

i think desiring to get married is not the issue,the issue is thinking that the preacher will 'pray the man into your life'.........and to say that by evening the man will call? i would prefer if he had told them to announce an IPO :)

@ Seeders
Thats a nice point. Never though of it like that, but now that its mentioned I see it.

@Famooz, you never did announce the results of 'your' IPO....
[/am with chikita ndio asinyemelewe

I really think this could make a good topic for a dissertation.

I think the biggest problem we have as kenyan women is our attitude. And this cuts across board. if we do not change our attitude towards relationships, then we truly are going to see harder times ahead. I dont know where we get this notion that you can get a perfect person. If you are perfect, then expect a perfect person. if you are not, then you have to accept the flaws in others and make the best out of them instead of complaining about your spouse in the bars with the boys or the salons with your galfriends. That is actually what is ailing kenyan relationships... then when the young pick it up, they grow with that attitude that the other sex is bad, can not be trusted, is out to 'finish' you etc... if your guy/gal is that bad, what are you still doing there? When we fight our spouses/lovers, we trash them even infront of children, neighbours, society at large... without due respect to the positive side they have. If you got to fight, fight fairly and give credit where it is due.

The attitude we have is the make or break of this society.

@kularaha
That is a good observation. Kenyan ladies need stop giving too cheaply. My humble question is, who are they giving it to? Kenyan men i suppose... Is it possible that it is the reason same women are giving for not being in relationships - that kenyan men are 'dogs' and they will sleep around with anything that wears a skirt? It is actually not just as easy as it looks (the sleeping around for both men and women)... it is actually the deeper moral fabric of this society that has become so weak that it is ok to change girls every weekend and it is ok to carry "tutalala wapi" on a friday and hop on the next bus headed to kawangware or korogocho!