I also think it should apply to both sons and daughters. But I'm not quite sure if I'll be able to implement it with my daughter. I always feel we should be more protective of our daughters - there are wolves out there waiting to devour them!

In support of Wendz though, someone whispered to me long time ago that if you get a wife directly from her parents house then you are setting yourself up for headaches and heartaches. She will never understand that pesa hukosa. Get a lady like Wendz who has got a chance to live by has self. Such a lady has budgeted and budgeted but the month always seems to outlive the money. When such a lady asks you for 2k [for whatever] and you tell her you have no money, she will understand it is very possible for a fully grown man in a suit and tie to lack 2k! Ni hiyo tu!

Magigi na maich

How do you protect her?You cant be with her for 24hrs!

Has anyone noted how young women crave for freedom?They usually move out first!

Thats true @magigi but may be you realise that a daughter does not get spoilt when she is 23 and above and not after college. If a gal is to get spoilt, they start at teenage. That is where the problem starts. at the age of 23, she is the person that has already formed and there is little of any 'bad' decision now. she is aware of all the consequences of her actions. For a child to move out at 23, the process starts when she/he is 6 and he knows what is expected of them whether they are under your roof or not... how many are becoming skeletons in their own mothers houses? what have our gals not done when they are in college? if its a rotten egg, it will stink even under your bed.... you just raise them the best you know how to and pray for them that they will be the people you would be proud of..... after 23, there is basically nothing you are doing to prevent what she wants to do.... if you tell me 14 - 20, that i know you have alot of influence... after college and you still feel you need to give that level of 'protection', then you lost it somewhere when it mattered most.

Good People,

I think the problem today is we have become the worst parents. I think the collapse of the larger family has alot to do with it. We have left our children to be brought up by the maid and TV. We even refer to radio to advise us. We are not present when our children are growing up as we are doing this degree, that MBA, the other diploma, or watching football with the guys in the pub, or even at a church function during the weekdays... we're are rarely at home with our kids. When we are, it is all about what we did whe not at home. No wonder once my son thought 'work' is kujienjoy!!

Let us give our children the real thing they need. It does not cost money.. That thing is TIME!!! We will then teach them life and how to go about it.. People, let us Make TIME for our children and let then watch as we go though life.They will be ready when the storms come!!

Bwana Bwenyenye na Bwana Msotoville

Your type of man is in extremely short supply siku hizi. I salute you both.