Dude,
Kwani how badly off is your buddy?

A coupla years back, I fell on some pretty hard times. After deliberations with wifey and the tots, we moved back to wifey's old neighbourhood (Kayole). We got a fairly decent two-room hovel for a song in an area known as Kona Mbaya.

Weekends turned out to be board game affairs (we had to get rid of most of the electrical goodies to raise chums) - sometimes we'd play monopoly into the wee hours as we listened to walevi's being nyongwa'd below our balcony.

Bottom line? Your pal should understand that he's married to his wife not his mum. He should also discover that those low points usually bind a family together - my two kiddos still fondly reminisce about Kayole. We were in a shitty house in a crappy neighbourhood - the most important thing is WE WERE TOGETHER!

He is the head of the house - tell the putz to realign his priorities and get his friggin' act together! Nkt!

Key factor to note in mariage is that it comprises of two descision makers and the minute a third party come around, its a red signal in traffic light. I have noted that mariages fail because of communication breakdown between the two parties.
In this case, the gent should engange the wife in a thorough discussion and the two should consinder the pro and cons for staying in Nai or moving upcountry.
Worth noting as a best couple is that sikio la kufa alisikii dawa. If the dude is determined and has planned and purposed, there is little yu can do.
Remember also, wawili wakipendana, waache!
Dont be over concerned. Let them know your stand and help where you can but dont try to overhelp. You will land in hot soup and you may spoil your mariage tyring to save your friends. I had almost a similar experience.
A close buddy had a abusive wife (Physical and verbal abuses). He was stressed much to ulcers extent. He coulnt tell me coz of embarasment but somehow came to know.
As a member of elders council, its an abomination for a woman to beat a man. I gave some piece of advice to my friend. One was, fight to death until you prove you are the man in the house. The dude gave a shock to the wife when she slapped him as susual. The man grabbed the leg and landed the woman on the floor. Motivated by this, the man beat the woman properly until she apologized for all the years she had beaten the man.
After some months of sanity in the family, the lady was determined to know how the man she had always beaten had changed, under the blankets enquired from the dude.
Sadly, the dude informed wife of the many advices/options i gave him in handling the issue. The wife knew i was engineering the transformation behind the man. To my life shock, she started thretening to spoil my mariage using whatsoever method at her disposal, just like i was spoiling hers. ........

@Pastor... 27? you must be joking! 27 you are supposed to be thinking of getting married. Kwani the dude will be bringing his galfriend to my house? No way..... You get your first job immediately after your campus at 23 and you are so out of my house!!! (and am being very lenient by to allow you to still be in my house at 23 by the way...... just to allow you get a job...

@wendz, does the rule apply for girls too?

Yes it does. At that age, i was out of my parent's house, and at a far away town, on my own... and i took good care of myself and survived... why wouldnt she? It made me independent, i managed to know what to eat and what to save and what to do with my life.... You treat all your children the same - boy or gal.