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I would dump her arse!!
ProverB
#1 Posted : Friday, August 20, 2010 11:02:53 PM
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having coffee with mates this evening..one of us put his issues on the table..asking for help..

when a dude has his fiance shut down on him...shut him out..pleading for some time alone..bila communicatin nor text..she just wants to be left alone for a while.. 6 months to the wedding.. best course of action?

I asked him to split!!!..coz i think she has doubts..plus her gal friends not keen about the guy either..

a man of honor would walk.. know when to say no..settle for nothing less than honesty n loyalty..and what he deserves ..when a woman weighs the opinion of her single girlfriends more than own convictions it tell you something. I'm i wrong?

argument ensued..that he's already been introduced to parents..n pledged to marry her..dowry plans slated for dec..

i have voted No to this chick but the rest think that's being melodramatic and he should wait and see..

Seriously?
..Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven...Matt5:16
- 1769 Oxford King James Bible 'Authorized Version
simonkabz
#2 Posted : Saturday, August 21, 2010 12:47:58 AM
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Akwende ahera
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kyt
#3 Posted : Saturday, August 21, 2010 12:58:18 AM
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not a good soulmate 4 him.
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Njung'e
#4 Posted : Saturday, August 21, 2010 9:33:31 AM
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A big minus.To be honest,i think the dude is an idiot.The fact that he has been introduced to the parents is no reason not to call it off......Let him run to the hills now!
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Intelligentsia
#5 Posted : Saturday, August 21, 2010 11:29:26 AM
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Grave doubts these are. Pre-wedding blues? Ama,amefanya medical privately and discovered...too much speculation, so you gotta talk to her.

Possibly she's just been hurtling down the pre-wed route and now the reality that she's going to be married to this dude and waking up everyday next to him has finally hit home.With a vengeance.

Methinks its very good the doubts have come now, BEFORE the wedding rather than AFTER when they have been officially united.

Your pal (ngatho, it isnt you Proverb,huh?)maybe unwilling to unwind the mileage covered so far in formalising the wedding because of the huge investment (financial,emotional,told pals/parents,etc) already incurred, but he has to know he cant go into as serious a thing as marriage with someone who has expressed doubts right from the outset.
ProverB
#6 Posted : Saturday, August 21, 2010 11:35:15 AM
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Intelligentsia wrote:
Your pal (ngatho, it isnt you Proverb,huh?)maybe unwilling to unwind the mileage covered so far in formalising the wedding because of the huge investment (financial,emotional,told pals/parents,etc) already incurred, but he has to know he cant go into as serious a thing as marriage with someone who has expressed doubts right from the outset.


dude..YOU WISH! Eh? I'd not leave.. i'd have left before it started!
..Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven...Matt5:16
- 1769 Oxford King James Bible 'Authorized Version
sparkly
#7 Posted : Saturday, August 21, 2010 11:47:41 AM
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@proverb hio tricky. I try not to ingilia into things romantic where friends are concerned. Seeing at it is that you are waist deep in it, advise him to give her some space, then they can talk objectively. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. She must also be facing pressure from her friends, family and relatives.
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ProverB
#8 Posted : Saturday, August 21, 2010 12:15:12 PM
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sparkly wrote:
@proverb hio tricky. I try not to ingilia into things romantic where friends are concerned. Seeing at it is that you are waist deep in it, advise him to give her some space, then they can talk objectively. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. She must also be facing pressure from her friends, family and relatives.


true.. Think

tho i ain't waist deep.. smile smile
apparently "brothers have no boundaries on matters laid out on the coffee table" is a creed we hav..

spanner in the works though..both waiting on God!..and i know when you put God in such scenarios no amount of technical analysis can predict outcome!!

why o why do we complicate simplicity?? Brick wall Brick wall
..Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven...Matt5:16
- 1769 Oxford King James Bible 'Authorized Version
madollar
#9 Posted : Saturday, August 21, 2010 12:18:34 PM
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six year ago we had a similar scenario pressure towards the girl from the parents but the wedding went on now they are divorced .since then i keep off wedding committees
Blackout
#10 Posted : Saturday, August 21, 2010 1:30:24 PM
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@ proverb...ur guy shld call off the wedding for now, give the lass some space..she will make her mind sooo fast...am sure in less that those six months...

As for running...let it be his decision
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